Hilda of Whitby and the Virtue of Humility – Br. David Vryhof

For monastics in every age, one of the most sought-after virtues was and is the virtue of humility. From the early desert fathers and mothers, we learn how essential humility is to the vocation of loving and serving God above all else:

Abba Anthony said, “I saw the snares that the enemy spread out over all the world and I said groaning, ‘What can get through from such snares?’ Then I heard a voice saying to me, ‘Humility.’”

…[Amma Syncletica] said, “Just as one cannot build a ship unless one has some nails, so it is impossible to be saved without humility.”

St. Benedict, author of the most widely-used rule of life among monastics in the west, speaks at length about the importance of humility. In the 7th chapter of his Rule, he outlines twelve steps towards the attainment of this virtue.

Humility has long been recognized as a key virtue of the Christian life. Jesus invites his followers to take up his yoke and to learn from him, for, he says, “I am gentle and humble in heart….” (Mt. 11:29). St. Paul tells us to “let this same mind be in you that was in Christ Jesus, who, though he was in the form of God, did not regard equality with God as something to be exploited, but emptied himself, taking the form of a slave, being born in human likeness. And being found in human form, he humbled himself and became obedient to the point of death—even death on a cross” (Phil. 2:5-8).

Hilda, Abbess of Whitby, whom we remember today, embodies this highly sought-after virtue of humility.  Hilda was born into the royal family of Northumbria in 614. She was instructed in the doctrines of Christianity by Paulinus, a companion of St. Augustine of Canterbury, in preparation for her baptism at the age of thirteen. She lived a quiet and devout life at the King’s court for the next twenty years, and then decided to enter monastic life. Her wisdom and holiness soon drew the attention of Aidan, Bishop of Lindisfarne, who appointed her Abbess of Hartlepool only a year after she had entered the monastery. There she established the rule of life she had been taught by Paulinus and Aidan, and became known for her humility, her wisdom, her eagerness for learning, and her complete devotion to God’s service.

Some years later, she founded the abbey at Whitby, where both nuns and monks lived under her rule of justice, devotion, charity, and peace. The historian Bede writes of her, “So great was her prudence that not only ordinary folk, but kings and princes used to come and ask her advice in their difficulties, and take it… [She] was not only an example of holy life to members of her own community. She also brought about the amendment and salvation of many living at a distance, who heard the inspiring story of her industry and goodness.”

“Hilda was graced with gifts of justice and prudence,” writes modern-day author Sam Portaro, “She was a woman of uncommon common sense. When her own community was divided over the differences between the practices of Celtic and Roman Christianity, a synod was called at Whitby. Hilda was personally sympathetic to the Celtic tradition, but the synod opted for the Roman position. Hilda adapted to that decision and was one of the strongest proponents of peace. She knew there were far more important considerations, that the difference of the two traditions was only a symptom of a much deeper issue—the fundamental issue of a united community.”

What might we learn about the virtue of humility from the life and example of Hilda of Whitby? I’d like to suggest three things.

First, that humility begins with a right assessment of ourselves. “True humility is simply a measure of the self that is taken without exaggerated approval or exaggerated guilt,” writes Joan Chittister, a modern-day Benedictine nun. “Humility is the ability to know ourselves as God knows us and to know that it is the little we are that is precisely our claim on God.”

“I am a very ‘umble person,” says Uriah Heep, the nemesis of David Copperfield in the novel of that name by Charles Dickens.  But Uriah Heep’s groveling manner and ingratiating words have nothing to do with true humility. His hypocritical posture of self-abasement and servility is used to manipulate others and to serve his own furtive agenda. True humility does not wallow in self-denigration and guilt; nor does it pretend submission to others in order to serve its own purposes. Thomas Merton, the 20th century Trappist monk, once wrote, “Humility is a virtue, not a neurosis.”

True humility rises from a right assessment of one’s self, an assessment that is without exaggerated approval or exaggerated disdain. A truly humble person sees herself as one small creature in God’s wide world—a child of God and made in the image of God, but also fallible and weak, in constant need of God’s mercy and help. Although she was born to royalty, Hilda’s life was not one of ostentation or pretentiousness; she chose instead to live a quiet and devout life, a life of devotion, chastity, peace, and love. Hilda exhibited the kind of humility that the 14th-century Flemish mystic John Ruusbroec described as “an interior bowing of the heart and mind before the transcendent mystery of God.”

Humility is not only a right understanding of ourselves, but also a right understanding of others. For the ancient monastics it was the living-out of the conviction that all human beings—every man, woman, and child—are beloved children of God. The life of humility manifested itself in a willingness to learn from others, combined with an unwillingness to stand in judgment of others. Both of these stances—a willingness to learn from others and an unwillingness to judge them—grow out of a self-understanding based upon the grace of God rather than on one’s own virtues or accomplishments.

A story is told of one of the most prominent of the desert fathers, Abba Arsenius. As a young man Arsenius had been tutor for the children of emperor Theodosius I. He was born into the senatorial class of Roman society and received the best classical education. At the age of thirty-four he left all that behind to become a monk and remained one until his death fifty-five years later.

One day Abba Arsenius consulted an old Egyptian monk about his own thoughts. Someone noticed this and said to him, “Abba Arsenius, how is it that you with such good Latin and Greek education, ask this peasant about your thoughts?” He replied, “I have indeed been taught Latin and Greek, but I do not know even the alphabet of this peasant.”

Humility gives us new eyes with which to see others. The standards of the world no longer apply. We are able to recognize the worth and dignity of every human being, and see Christ in them. We are able to recognize that every person we meet has something to teach us. Humility implies a willingness to learn from others, no matter how poor or simple they may be. In this spirit of humility, Hilda welcomed all—kings and princes, and simple peasants. None were beyond the reach of her compassion.

When the Synod of Whitby chose to follow the practices of Roman rather than Celtic Christianity, Hilda set aside her preference for Celtic ways to work for unity and peace. Humility, like love, “is not envious or boastful or arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful…but rejoices in the truth” (I Cor.13:4-6).

Humility teaches us that, since Christ is found in every person, we have no right to stand in judgment of another—nor to despise or disdain them. It refuses to judge another based on things the world values: family background and connections, wealth and possessions, status in the eyes of others, popularity, success, vocation, gender, or any other worldly standard.

Abba Pahnutius, the disciple of Abba Macarius, said, “I asked my Father to say a word to me and he replied, “Do no evil to anyone, and do not judge anyone. Observe this and you will be saved.”

Humility sees that each person is a bearer of Christ from whom we can learn and a child of God whom we must not judge. It acknowledges that none of us is God and no matter the depth of our spiritual practices or our holy habits we will never match the holiness of God. We are always in need of God’s grace and mercy and compassion, and we must always be willing to offer this same grace and mercy and compassion to others.

Finally, humility gives us a profound reverence for the earth and a sense of solidarity with all its creatures. It is a way of life, a way of being in the world, that honors the earth and its creatures. “Humility,” writes Joan Chittister, “is the foundation for our relationship with God, our connectedness to others, our acceptance of ourselves, our way of using the goods of the earth and even our way of walking through the world, without arrogance, without domination, without scorn, without put-downs, without disdain, without self-centeredness. The more we know ourselves, the gentler we will be with others.”

How do we cultivate the graceful virtue of humility? We might start by making an honest self-assessment, starting with what in us is good, strong, and skilled. These manifestations of God at work in us are cause for rejoicing. We might then consider our weaknesses, our failures and our sins—things we’re not so pleased about. An honest self-assessment helps us avoid an exaggerated view of our goodness and strengths or an exaggerated view of our weakness and need.

We might also consider ways in which we can stretch ourselves, and thereby develop a deeper and more genuine humility. We might, for example, choose to associate with those who are different from us, or really listen to that person who irritates or bores us. We might try to learn something that is difficult for us, or take on some new responsibility that we know will test and challenge us. We might look for a way to stand in solidarity with the marginalized, to come alongside them rather than to extend a hand downward to help. We might think and pray about ways in which we could improve our character, and grow in humility.

Hilda of Whitby, born into a royal family and possessing many gifts, can, by her humble life of prayer and service, show us the way. Pray for us, blessed Hilda of Whitby, that we too may know the grace of true humility.

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  1. rhode on January 2, 2018 at 14:14

    My dad was the essence of humility which I view as being the byproduct of the love of God in his life. Deeply at peace with God, quick to open his house and wallet, guiless in his simplicity, complicated in his persistence for justice, tireless to help; his days grounded in the Word and prayer especially in the last 15 years of life. Those who knew him were impressed by his joy and attention. His humble nature seemed to be the fruit or the flower of a hard working, hard giving, hard loving heart who sought and found Jesus in everyone. I have met others like my dad, none cultivated humility or worked to attain that particular virtue. It was always a flower.

  2. Arthur W on January 2, 2018 at 12:08

    Lovely and awesome sermon. However, I got this “word” in my inbox : “True humility rises from a right assessment of one’s self, an assessment that is without exaggerated approval or exaggerated disdain. A truly humble person sees herself as one small creature in God’s wide world—a child of God and made in the image of God, but also fallible and weak, in constant need of God’s mercy and help.”

    Humbly and respectfully speaking good Sirs, would God please place us in the kingdom of heaven (inside and outside) where we may frolic and love and have fun and be free (and there is no suffering or non joy)? Would a human father who loves his child ask this of his child: to be humble ? or would a human father rather see their child prosper, be confident and spirited and enjoy their life ? If a human father would rather see their child be bold and confident instead of engage in self analysis and introspection then may we not expect greater things from our heavenly father, please?

  3. Michael on January 2, 2018 at 09:47

    A fair self assessment and a willingness to listen and try to understand others can do nothing but make the world, more sane, kinder and happier

  4. Paul Antenore on December 6, 2015 at 15:47

    Needed to read these words. I just returned from a preliminary review of 2016 Parish Budget and said somethings that, well, didn’t reflect any semblance of humility.

  5. Muriel Akam on December 6, 2015 at 11:50

    This is a lovely sermon and reminder . One cannot consciously practice humility as it would just produce a cringing response from others . One can be proud of one’s achievements and good qualities without losing a sense of humility . Again, actions speak volumes and we should all reach out to people from all walks of life and backgrounds .

  6. Christopher Engle Barnhart on November 27, 2015 at 07:28

    I am moved by the passage from Joan Chittister that you quoted “Humility is the foundation for our relationship with God, our connectedness to others, our acceptance of ourselves, our way of using the goods of the earth and even our way of walking through the world, without arrogance, without domination, without scorn, without put-downs, without disdain, without self-centeredness. The more we know ourselves, the gentler we will be with others.” It speaks volumns to how we should live our lives. I will keep this thought with me and work to be that person of humility.

  7. Heidi on August 5, 2014 at 15:31

    I realize that, for the sake of unity, Hilda relented her stance on Celtic Christianity, deferring to the majority rule for Roman Christianity. Yet, I wonder, if we had adopted the Celtic tradition might we not be enjoying a more-grace-filled Christian religion today. One that does not put down women and one that celebrates all of life more fully. I sometimes question if the goal of unity is always the highest or best. Just my ruminations.

    Thank you for an insightful message on humility that so needs to be given and received today!

    • Fred Adams on August 15, 2014 at 14:43

      Bro. David,
      Even though originally posted in 2008, it hit my computer recently and it fits Aug 15, 2014–today. The timelessness of your comments on humility are like an answer to a prayer as I try to navigate my relations with my children and grandchildren. You speak to me as if we are sitting together. Thank you Bro. David.

  8. judy on August 5, 2014 at 08:47

    I just returned from Iona where the Celtic tradition of celebrating God in creation and life was transporting….as were your words. Bless you for your work.

  9. Ruth West on July 6, 2013 at 20:59

    I liked this sermon. I think, as you suggest, that we can start by assessing our strengths, then can we understand our weaknesses. I cannot see that to cultivate humility would require a “put-down” or seeing ourselves as having a poor self-image. I would like to emulate Hilda, Mother Theresa, and even our loving Virgin Mary who said Yes to God. Obedience is the ultimate beginning to true humility, I believe.

  10. Melanie Zybala on January 14, 2013 at 13:14

    Thoughtful,.scholarly, well-written, full of good kinds of suggestions.
    May I suggest one caveat. a psychological problem that I’ve seen among Buddhist friends: Both “humility” and “egolessness” are often misunderstood
    and taken too much to heart by people–especially women, and people who
    are not privileged in society–to mean that they should be even more self-sacrificing and submissive than they–we–already are. “Oh, I’m too proud”,or, “Oh, I have too big an ego” are “sins” confessed, invariably, by
    women who need more pride, more self-respect, more ego strength–not less.
    These women are not Uriah Heeps, with a hidden agenda. They already believe they are “not good enough.” Let humility be learned and modeled first by the politicians, church leaders, and by many male leaders across society. So just
    be aware that your women and working-class parishioners are most likely to respond to this article with increased self-judgment. Perhaps an equally important subject, a partner to this sermon, might be: learning to be proud and
    to respect oneself. Then humility can come, in a healthy way.
    Thanks for reading this.

    • N on November 27, 2015 at 08:40

      Dear Ms Zybala,

      Thank your for your insight. It is an excellent compliment to a beautiful sermon.

    • margo fletcher on January 2, 2018 at 10:58

      Well said Ms Zybala. Br. David’s sermon is lovely but misses the difference there often is, and not only among the working class, between women and men. Socialized and even directly taught women sin far more by self abnegation then pride. Thanking for articulating this. Margo

  11. Judy on January 12, 2013 at 09:30

    This gets to the heart of Christianity for me.

  12. DLa Rue on January 12, 2013 at 09:23

    Your notes also make me think about the way of life, or ‘modus vivendi’ that humility enjoins. There’s a line in one of the texts sung to Talis’ Canon, “Teach us to live that we might be/more faithful followers of thee.”

    Aesthetics is usually (or was once) taught with Ethics in philosophy, and I think that more than ‘accidental’ (pun intended) since the appearances and dynamic ways of doing things both have an effect on others, for good or for ill, and ingrain in us the awareness and habits of being in terms of our influence or effect on them.

    So, if some habit of mine is upsetting to others (not that any of them are, or course…) it behooves me to learn to live differently in that regard so far as I may, and with God’s help.

    But I won’t realize the fault, nor amend it, without approaching the situation in all humility, of course.

    To be learned anew each day, as you say.

  13. Laura Ricard on November 19, 2012 at 06:46

    Thanks you for this! What is the source of the Chittister quote?

    • Marie on October 15, 2016 at 07:20

      You may have found the answer to this question already, but just in case you haven’t, it is from “The Rule of Benedict: A Spirituality for 21st Century” by Joan Chittister. Fabulous book for personal use or in a group setting! Her chapter on humility (ch. 7) is simply beautiful.

  14. DLa Rue on November 18, 2012 at 10:52

    I used to have a quotation written on a file card in my high school locker that I kept next to a little plaster owl; I no longer recall where I found it:

    “Humility is an elusive quality. Once you think you’ve got it, you’ve lost it.”

  15. Phil Gunyon on November 18, 2012 at 08:39

    Just sent this email to our church discussion group at St. Thomas’, Bracebridge, ON;
    Again, today’s Word from the SSJE brothers in Boston, MA sends us a message that reflects our talks last Friday afternoon – humility and the monastic life. I suggest that in order to get the full meaning of Br. Vryhof’s Word, you read his whole (short) talk here; http://ssje.org/ssje/2008/11/18/needs-title/?lt;br_/>
    Thank you.

  16. Maida Broudo on April 4, 2011 at 07:22

    Wow David…..

    Such food for thought as we start the week and begin the back side of Lent….where it is not too late to emerge into reflection. Thank you for these wonderful and thought provoking words….
    Look forward to seeing you at Palm Sunday Service….and so loved being with you at lunch last week.



  17. Steven Jamison on January 19, 2009 at 21:11

    I really like this sermon. It made me look and think about humility in a different perspective. I will have to listen and read this sermon again and meditate on humility.

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