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Thank God I’m Not Like Them – Br. David Vryhof

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Br. David VryhofLuke 18:9-14

When I was a boy I looked down on my Episcopalian neighbors – mostly because they played outside and watched television on Sunday and we didn’t.  They didn’t go to church nearly as often as we did – and sometimes there was beer in their refrigerator.  Their boys received a quarter every time they rehearsed or sang with the children’s choir at their church; we did it for free.  They went to public schools; we went to Christian schools. Yes, there was a lot to be proud of, plenty of evidence that we were a notch above them on God’s scale.

But even as a boy I could see myself in this parable.  The contrast between the Pharisee and the Tax Collector is so stark and so dramatic that even children have a hard time missing the point.  I knew my feelings of religious superiority were wrong.

Obviously, at some point I must have dropped my bias against Episcopalians. But new biases arose and the pattern repeated itself.  Today the temptation is to look with contempt at biblical fundamentalists, or at the hierarchy of the Roman Catholic Church, or at those who count themselves as “spiritual but not religious.”  Being a Pharisee doesn’t go away easily.  I tremble a bit when I read the words that introduce this story: “He told this parable to some who trusted in themselves that they were righteous and regarded others with contempt.”  I have to ask myself, who are the others I regard with contempt?

Obviously this was a problem in Jesus’ day, too – hence this parable. Jesus addressed the issue more than once.

In his Sermon on the Mount he instructed his disciples not to sound the trumpets when they gave alms so that they could be seen by others, but to give secretly without drawing attention to themselves (Mt 6:2-4).

He told them not to stand and pray in conspicuous places, but to go to their rooms and shut the door and pray to the Father in secret (Mt 6:5-8).

He said, Don’t disfigure your faces when you fast so that people will notice your piety; put oil on your head and wash your face and act normally so that only God will see and know your practice (Mt 6:16-18).  Spiritual disciplines lose their power when they’re done in order to draw attention to ourselves.

“Beware of practicing your piety before others in order to be seen by them,” Jesus says, “for then you have no reward from your Father in heaven” (Mt 6:1).  Don’t consider yourselves better than others or more righteous.  “Judge not, so that you may not be judged.  For with the judgment you make you will be judged” (Mt 7:1-2)

And we get it, don’t we? And yet arrogance, conceit and self-centered pride creep in, again and again and again.  We find ourselves thinking, if not actually saying, “Thank God I’m not like them.”

How does it happen? How does the enemy so easily ensnare us? St Ignatius of Loyola, the 16thcentury Spanish saint and founder of the Jesuits, has an answer. It’s like this, he says:

First, we recognize that we have riches– wealth or success or physical beauty or popularity or some special talent or a spotless reputation or a good family.

Because of these riches we receive honorfrom others.  They praise us, look up to us, consider us special – and we believe them.

This, says Ignatius, is what leads to arrogant pride– the pride of the Pharisee in Jesus’ story.  We deem ourselves to be special, unlike others, worthy of praise and honor from others, separate from them, higher and better.  Riches, Honor and Pride – that’s the progression, says Ignatius.

And it’s not just something that happens to us as individuals.  It happens to groups of people, to nations, for example, and to religious groups, and to ethnic or racial groups.  We long for “riches,” those things that are most valued in the world – popularity or fame, a certain lifestyle, financial security, social status, worldwide power and influence.  These are the things that bring us honor and respect (or maybe fear) in the eyes of other people.   And these riches and honors cause us to swell with pride. We see ourselves as better, more righteous, more deserving.  And we consider with contempt those less righteous, less gifted, less influential and less worthy than ourselves.

Dean Brackley, author of the book The Call to Discernment in Troubled Times, quotes a letter which a friend of his received from a leading credit card company, inviting him to apply for a new credit card – (he doesn’t say what card it is – I’ll call it the Gold Card, just for now).

Dear _________,

Recently I invited you to apply for the GoldCard…. I believe you’ve earned this invitation.  You’ve worked hard and have been recognized for your efforts.  And nothing is more satisfying than achieving your own personal goals.

Now it’s time for you to carry the card that symbolizes your achievement – the GoldCard.

Only a select group will ever carry the GoldCard.  So it instantly identifies you as someone special – one who expects an added measure of courtesy and personal attention.  And with the GoldCard, you enjoy an impressive degree of convenience, financial flexibility and service….

TheG­oldCard says more about you than anything you can buy with it.  I think it’s time you joined the select group who carry it.

Sincerely,                                              

                                                                        [Brackley, pp.90-91]

Here’s the message: You’re special.  A cut above. Worthy of “an added measure of courtesy and personal attention.”  You deserve the honor and respect of others. You’re special.  The fact that you have the GoldCard puts you in a special class of people (a modern day version of the Pharisee).

These are the ways of a world gone wrong – a world infected by covetousness and greed.  A world that climbs and pushes its way to the top of the ladder, often stepping over others in the process.  A world that grasps after the symbols of power and success. A world of competition, a world of upward mobility….

It’s a world that creates outcasts, that values or devalues people based on their social and economic status, their gender, their sexual orientation, their race and class.  At the top are the glamorous movie stars, the well-paid athletes, the successful CEOs, the rich bankers.  At the bottom are the mentally ill, homosexuals, prostitutes, people with AIDS, homeless alcoholics – the people it is easiest to despise.

“Whenever one group of human beings is treated as inferior to another,” says Archbishop Emeritus Desmond Tutu, “hatred and intolerance will triumph.”

[quoted in The Washington Post, Sunday, October 23, 2010 in an article by Navanethem Pillay entitled “How We Can Fight Back Against Homophobia”]

Jesus shows us a better way. He tells us to humble ourselves, to stoop low so that we can listen and learn from the marginalized and the poor, to be indifferent to honors, to drop out of the race for social status, to put ourselves in solidarity with the needy, to cooperate rather than compete, to give rather than take.  His way is a downward way, a way of service and self-offering; it is the way of humility rather than pride.  “[Jesus] emptied himself,” the Scriptures tell us, “taking the form of a slave, being born in human likeness” (Phil. 2:7).  He came not to be served but to serve.  He counted prostitutes and tax collectors and sinners as his friends, and ate and drank with them.

And we are to have the same mind.  “Let each of you look not to your own interests,” St Paul writes to the Philippians, “but to the interests of others.  Let the same mind be in you that was in Christ Jesus” (Phil. 2:4-5)

There’s no room in the kingdom of God for arrogance and pride.  Everyone’s equal there.  There are no outcasts, no persecuted minorities, no inferior peoples.

“He told this parable to some who trusted in themselves that they were righteous and regarded others with contempt.”  Let’s learn the lesson well.  The world will be a better place.

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11 Comments

  1. Karen A Hartsell on January 8, 2019 at 17:35

    I believe in God for trust Jesus for he died for us and taught us humbleness and trust!

  2. Susan Zimmerman on January 2, 2019 at 20:14

    RE: “…Everyone’s equal there. There are no outcasts, no persecuted minorities, no inferior peoples…”

    If this is so, who are those who need reconciliation?

  3. Rhode on January 2, 2019 at 12:38

    Our ‘world’ is asking us to fear more and spend more on ‘things’ that will keep the ‘bad’ away.
    Christ asks us to Fear Not and then opens our eyes to see who and what our real enemy is. He promises to always accompany us on our journey forward. May 2019 be a year of discernment as we release ourselves from the oppression and distraction of fear and contempt to hear the constant, consistent voice of love from the One who is able to provide, sustain and make a way of love possible.

  4. Elizabeth Hardy on January 2, 2019 at 10:26

    Nine years since this homily was preached and the struggle continues – great reminder for the New Year Br. thanx. Elizabeth Hardy+

  5. sallie smith on January 2, 2019 at 08:13

    being born upper class and wealthy, I long go figured out that I was not called to go the way of St Francis.
    What I have felt called to do is to use my position and wealth and to help others. e.g. Two professional degrees but except at the beginning of my career I have always worked for free.

    There is another message that is often given by church people to people like me- you are no good because you have class and wealth.

    It is amazing how we can always find someone to look down upon!

  6. CR on January 2, 2019 at 08:10

    Many of us struggle continually for humilty and will never entirely win the battle. But you fight the good fight and, over time, get a little closer. I hope!

    St. Francis is the great model of humilty, one who truly heeded, and acted on, Christ’s teachings. And St. Thérèse of Lisieux provides a very edifying account of the struggle between pride and humility in her Story of a Soul.

    But the great model is, of course, Our Lady herself: the most humble who became the most exalted. There’s a reason why the Magnificat is the church’s daily prayers. Should probably be a daily routine for those of us struggling toward humility as well. It serves as a constant reminder
    that most of the values by which we are surrounded, and which we probably share, at least to some extent, are the polar opposite of what God has in mind.

  7. SusanMarie on January 2, 2019 at 06:56

    Amen! Thank you for having the courage and wisdom (as Jesus did when he addressed the people) to remind us of this terrible trap of superiority and judgment; thinking of people (all children of God) as “other” or “less than”. You really brought this parable to life for me. I will keep this sermon and read it often, to inwardly digest the Truth of its message.

  8. Reed Saunders on January 2, 2019 at 05:23

    Amen! My daily struggle but at least I’m now aware of the path I wish to be on with God’s Grace

  9. Joe Stroud on December 2, 2013 at 12:51

    Br. David: “Who are the others I regard with contempt?” What a pointed and unwelcome question (at least for this sometimes Pharasaical seeker). Thank you for so clear a reminder that even my feeble efforts at discipleship require me to ponder those unwelcome questions, and equally as importantly, to do something about them.

  10. Kathleen on November 26, 2013 at 09:24

    Thank you so much for your daily ‘word’. It is the first thing I read in the morning. A question regarding humility: How can I serve without the ego kicking in when people say such things as ‘oh you do such a good job’ or ‘we just can’t get along without you’. At one time I really liked being told what a nice job I was doing, but no longer. It is embarrasing. I just want to do the job needed with no fanfare and without feeling any need for any accolades. Just serve. Do you know what I mean?

  11. Pam on November 26, 2013 at 08:03

    Yes, the path of descent. That’s what Jesus modeled and that’s what we all find so hard to do. Less is more. To die is to live. Our egos rebel against it, but it’s the only way.

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