Living Stones – Br. Geoffrey Tristram

Thanksgiving Service for the Renovation and Renewal of the Monastery

We have been looking forward to this day for such a long time!  The day when we Brothers have the opportunity to publically give thanks to God for the gift of our new Monastery – and to give thanks to all of you – our dear friends who have supported, encouraged and cheered us on over these past years of visioning, fundraising, and building.  This past year of the exile in particular has been quite a challenge for us.  St. Augustine once said that a monk out of his monastery is like a fish out of water – and over this past year we have been gasping to be back home.  We’ve come home and it is wonderful to be here with all of you on this glorious day, and wonderful to be able to celebrate this service of praise and thanksgiving.

We believe passionately that God has given us so much: this beautiful new Monastery, our friends, benefactors and advisors – all for a purpose.  We believe we have a mission.  And that is to draw others to know and experience in their own lives, the love of God in Christ.

“My house shall be called a house of prayer for all peoples” writes the prophet Isaiah.  We long for this monastic Chapel to be such a place, where anyone may enter and feel welcomed by the all-embracing love of God.  The very structure of the buildings express that.  Our Monastery and Guesthouse are set back from the road, but our Chapel extends right out into the world, onto busy Memorial Drive, and our doors are kept open.

Some years ago, as we reflected on the state of our buildings, we wondered whether maybe God was prompting us to leave Memorial Drive and move out into the country.  As we reflected and prayed we felt a deep call to stay in the city.  And so here we are.  This is in keeping with the vision of our founder Richard Meux Benson.  The very first mission house of the Society was not built amidst the cloistered calm of the “dreaming spires” of Oxford, but rather in the midst of the busy industrial Oxford suburb of Cowley.  He was very worried by the arrival of the train in Oxford.  He worried about the effect of such speed on people’s lives!  I can only imagine what he would make of the crazy speed of contemporary life – our internet world.

But our mission, like Fr. Benson’s, is to offer this Monastery as a still point in the midst of the city: we are committed to stand in the full flow of the modern world, whilst at the same time, inviting people to stop, to be still, to reflect, and to receive the love of God.

“My house shall be a house of prayer for all peoples.”

Our experience of having to raise money and rebuild this Monastery has actually helped us understand more deeply this mission to which we have been called.  But secondly, it has also helped us understand something else.  And that is just how much we Brothers need help: how much you are part of our mission.  What a blessing it is to know our need for one another, as members of the body of Christ.  There are some beautiful words which I love in the American Prayer Book in the service for Holy Baptism.  The moment comes when the priest marks the person to be baptized on the forehead with the sign of the cross and says, “You are sealed by the Holy Spirit in Baptism and marked as Christ’s own forever.”

Marked as Christ’s own forever.  When I first read that, I thought of the place where I first served as priest – the isle of Portland in Southern England.  Portland is famous for its Portland Stone.  It was used to build such famous buildings as the UN Building in New York City, the government buildings in Delhi, India, and perhaps most famously of all, St. Paul’s Cathedral in London Sir Christopher Wren, its architect, would come down to Portland, to the quarries, and he would walk around choosing the stones which he wanted for his cathedral.  Each stone was a different shape and form, but the master builder knew in his mind exactly where it would be placed in the structure.  As he chose the stones he would mark them.

I think of that when I sit in my stall in this Chapel and look at the different stones: all uniquely shaped: how Cram designed and fitted these together so beautifully.  In the First Letter of Peter he writes, “Like living stones let yourselves be built into a spiritual house.”  So, like the stones in this Chapel, we too have been marked – marked with love – marked as Christ’s own forever.  We too each have a unique shape – and each have a part to play in building God’s house.  Over this past year in particular, even when we were worshipping in the tent, I have been so aware of how together we have been the Body of Christ, ministering so graciously to one another.  For all of you – living stones in God’s spiritual house I give thanks.

In a moment Bishop Tom will give thanks for the cornerstone of this building, representing Christ, the cornerstone laid in this church 75 years ago and upon which all the others were laid.

So, I believe, firstly our mission is to be a house of prayer for all peoples.  Then secondly, that all of us are called to share in this mission, as members of the Body of Christ in this place, living stones in God’s house of prayer.  Thirdly, I believe that at the heart of this Monastery, is this Chapel.  And at the very heart of this Chapel is the cross.  Jesus, in our Gospel today from John says, “I, if I be lifted up from the earth, will draw all people to myself.”  It is at the cross that we most experience God’s all-embracing love.  It is to that place of love that we long to draw others.

It is the profound mystery at the heart of the Christian faith.  That we can come to the foot of the cross and bring our hurts and failures, even our greatest pain, and know what it is to be held in God’s love.  And then most mysteriously of all, to experience that pain mysteriously transformed, transfigured, by the love of God, and to be taken up into the resurrection of Christ.  There is a cross in virtually every room in the Monastery – even in the pantry and the kitchen.  It is our life and our hope.  In a moment we shall be blessing our new processional cross, which is a beautiful Coptic cross from Egypt.  It links us to the very soil from which monasticism sprang.

I find it so moving to witness men and women who come for a few days retreat here – often with many burdens weighing them down – and who time and again have a real experience of transformation and resurrection.  They leave this place with new hope.  We too are filled with great hope today.  Hope that with our newly renovated Monastery and with your continued help and support, together we will be able to carry out God’s mission to draw all people to himself, that they may know God’s all embracing love.

So today, at this celebratory Eucharist, we come together to give thanks, and to sing God’s praise.  Singing God’s praise is what we do every day in this Monastery Chapel.  It is our life.  And I believe that that is what we are all here for in this life: to live a life of praise.  As those wonderful words of our final hymn put it:  “My soul, bear thou thy part, triumph in God above, and with a well-tuned heart sing thou the songs of love.  Let all thy days, till life shall end, what e’er he send, be filled with praise.”


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  1. marta on April 21, 2019 at 00:04

    Thank you for all of the thoughts conveyed and also the responses.
    It is great to think that although, we may be “stone” like, we are a vital part of the church, the community, as well as part of God/Jesus, especially during this past Lenten season. Like architects, we continue to work to build outself into a better relationship w/ God. Your messages help us to go deeper in our relationship with God. Praises be to the Brothers. (It remains sad to me that women somehow are not able to be included. . . )

  2. Jeanne DeFazio on April 20, 2019 at 09:49

    Thanks. My last monastery stay this month was restoration!

    My soul, bear thou thy part, triumph in God above, and with a well-tuned heart sing thou the songs of love. Let all thy days, till life shall end, what e’er he send, be filled with praise.”


  3. Christina McKerrow on April 20, 2019 at 09:35

    Dear Brothers: Another Cathedral almost destroyed but not quite. Perhaps you have seen the early photograph of the wooden pews, the pile of rubble piled up before the high altar. But then, a light has caught the great cross still hanging with Mary, holding the limp body o Jesus, just below it. Amazing. //At the end of the last century, (18TH/19TH) St. George’s Cathedral , Kingston, Ontario had also gone up in flames. The one artifact to be saved? The cross that now hangs on the high altar. //Again, miraculous.
    Blessed Easter greetings to all of you at SSJE and any who read this morning’s Word.

  4. anders on February 6, 2015 at 11:04

    Thank you. Marked stones which somehow fit together: that’s a strong personal visual image. One of my given names is Sten, meaning “stone” in my native Swedish. Your image helps me claim that secondary name more, complete with the sense not being of the local geography, that old default emotion of alienation. It’s not about being a round peg for a square hole, but rather a piece of a greater whole. Perhaps your image will remind me that my task is simply stay out of the way from my stone-ness to get used in a spiritual house beyond my own comprehension.

  5. Christopher Engle Barnhart on February 6, 2015 at 08:41

    I find your sermon so paticularly meaningful to me. I was the architect of record for my church, All Saints’ Episcopal Church – Redding, CA. I am retired now from practicing architecture but I continue to advise All Saints’ in their building program. There are much work to complete the faciltiy: a Parish Hall and Chapel off the the south and north Chancel Transepts; a con version of the current parish hall into the church offices; another classroom; a cover walkway to finish the cloister; stainglass for the windows in the sanctuary; and many smaller projects. I may not see the completion of all this but do know that with God’s help all things are possible.

  6. DLa Rue on April 8, 2013 at 19:57

    I, also, have opened up the first few emails since the end of Lent thinking, “Oh, I need to put my earphones on…” then realizing, “Oh, no, that was just for Lent,” and regretted their loss.

    I’ve sent the links to several people and, very like the poster above, have folded them into my morning crossaint and cocoa, scripture study, and thoughts/prayers for the day.

    A collection sounds like a good idea to me as well. It would appear you have found appropriate ways to share the sense of peace and careful thinking, and the focused approach to prayer that has always been a part of the monastic tradition, in a new way.

    Blessings be…

  7. Laura Ricard on April 8, 2013 at 06:48

    I read the homily the very first thing in the morning, as the sun rises, and then I have a cup of tea with God to reflect on your words and pray. The Lenten video series was so nourishing. I wish you could post a video daily, throughout the church year. Thank you, my brothers in Christ. Will you consider publishing all the homilies associated with the Lenten video series in a little devotional that could be purchased?

  8. Christina McKerrow on September 24, 2012 at 14:37

    Dear Brother Geoffrey: No doubt you were celebrating the first anniversary of the newly built Monastry. Like other comments: I would love to be able to be in Boston and attend a worship service. Unfortunately, Kingston, Ontario is a little way away. That being said, however, I receive your gift of morning sermons, and my friend in Toronto also receives them. While we are a distance away from one another, we feel that we are together in the mornings.
    Something you may find interesting is the fact that my daughter and I stayed in St. Stephen’s college in Cowley in June. Oxford was wonderful.

  9. DLa Rue on September 24, 2012 at 07:58

    So it is just a year now that you are back.

    Happy anniversary.

    DLa Rue

  10. Joanne Wilson on September 23, 2011 at 09:01

    In the rural countryside of Pa..i am so thankful to receive so much from this Monastery.It was a gracefilled day when 8 years ago on a walk with my daughter spotted your door and began a relationship that never has deepened me in ways i would have never have imagined.thank you for continuing to share your services,sermons,images and words with those of us who are unable to partake in is one of the few things i love about the internet. joanne

  11. Bob Jeffery on September 19, 2011 at 03:01

    Congratulations on completing the restoration
    I was very pleased to hear the sermon and share a little in your restoration servie.It is particularly relevant as next Sunday I am preaching in Worcester Cathedral at a thanksgiving service for the 20 year restoration of that building which was was started when I was Dean. But buildings are also a problem I can never forget that Fr Benson described Church buildings as an evil necessity which is “only to be tolerated as a necessity in dealing with a corrupt and worldly age of nominal christians”.
    It is a fine line – but fine buildings like your monastery can indeed move peoples hearts and lives but it has to be matched by the quality and depth of the lives of the people living in them. I look forward to a visit sometime in the future. With all my prayers and best wishes Bob

  12. Maureen Shea on September 18, 2011 at 17:28

    Welcome home – praise God – and now the work and mission continue.

  13. jane goldring on September 18, 2011 at 12:08

    geoffrey thankyou for those inspiring words. i think we all have to reach out for people and we do not know when we are going to need help. i had the rector mention about your revovations and your thanksgiving service in prayer today. i have always been uplifted after i have come home from holy week and other times. jane

  14. Clare Edwards on September 18, 2011 at 10:24

    So good to be able to share with you from Canterbury, England. Would have loved to have been with you, so this is the next best thing. Looking forward to the pictures! Thanks.

  15. Jamie Hamilton on September 18, 2011 at 05:32

    Dear Brothers,
    I am so thankful that from a distance in my own home, I can be lifted into your service of thanksgiving and to be reminded that we are all living stones, a part of the house of God. I am grateful that you answered your call and restored not only your monastery, our monastery, but all our hearts that long to be a part of a community that trusts in the love of God.
    I will come worship with you soon, but until then you are all in my prayers.
    With much joy,

  16. Julie Coryell on September 17, 2011 at 20:27

    Dear Brother Geoffrey,

    New hope, indeed! Congratulations and reflected love from the NW corner of the country. In turn I hope to attend next Sunday’s 9:00 am Eucharist with my spouse, Seelye Martin to marvel and greet you all in person. Don’t you think Isabella Stewart Gardner would be proud of your efforts?

    Blessings and prayers for comfortable settling in,

    Julie Coryell

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