Love No Matter What – Br. Luke Ditewig

Br. Luke Ditewig“I give you a new commandment that you love one another. Just as I have loved you, you also should love one another.”[i] Instead of telling us to be kind, respectful, compassionate or patient (which we are to be), Jesus tells us to love. In the New Testament Greek there are four words for love. One is about family, love between children and parents, between siblings. Another is the erotic, sexual, falling in love. Another is the love of close friends. Then there’s agape, different from the rest. It’s not based on a relationship or affinity.

One may have agape for family, friends and lovers, but it is more a choice. This is a determination of the will that no matter who this person is, no matter what kind of relationship we have with them, no matter how they treat us, no matter if they injure or grieve us, we will seek their best. It is doing the same good for them as those for whom we have a special feeling. It is love to those whom we may or may not like.

This is tough love, not a feeling of the heart but a resolve of the will. It’s the love God has for all of us, love no matter what. It’s the love Jesus had for his disciples and what Jesus speaks of in our Gospel text today: I give you a new commandment that you love one anther no matter what. Just as I have loved you no matter what, you also should love one another no matter what.

Love is not an entirely new command. God told Abraham: I will bless you, so that you will be a blessing. Through you all the nations of the earth will be blessed.[ii] What is new for the disciples is how they have been experiencing this love no matter what directly from Jesus.

Remember their experience. Imagine being at the Last Supper and hearing: “Just as I have loved you, you also should love one another.” What might have come to mind for the disciples? What memories might have flashed when Jesus said: as I have loved you no matter what?

I was a common fisherman. He reached out to me. Jesus invited me into relationship with him and on this journey. Jesus loves me.

Like the man beside the pool, Jesus said, “Do you want to be healed?” I gave all kinds of excuses why I can’t get better. He saw through and extended a hand. Jesus loves me.

I’m like one of those wandering lost sheep. Jesus sought me out. Even leaving the others, he went after me in rough places and brought me back to safety. Jesus loves me.

We tried to convince him to send the people away so they could go buy food. But he said: “You give them something to eat.” He used the little we had and made it overflow. He keeps asking me to give when I think I don’t have anything. He multiplies even my smallest offer. Jesus includes and values. Jesus loves me.

He called out “who touched me?” amid a crowd jostling up against him. Like with that woman, he notices when I reach out to him amid all the others. Jesus pays attention and listens. Jesus loves me.

We’re a ragtag and rowdy bunch. We complain and argue. We doubt and run off. We keep getting it wrong. Jesus puts up with us in the most gracious way. Jesus loves us.

He acted like a slave just now. He washed our feet! He always accepts and honors the very things we want to hide. Jesus kneels down with gentle compassion. Jesus loves us.

Now listen to Jesus speaking to you and to me: “I give you a new commandment, that you love one another. Just as I have loved you, you also should love one another.” What comes to mind when you hear this? What memories flash when Jesus says: as I have loved you no matter what?

Perhaps you remember how it all began, how Jesus invited you into relationship. Remember people who have been Jesus in the flesh for you.

Those who looked past your excuses and extended a helping hand.

Those who sought you out in rough places and brought you safely home.

Those who included and valued you, making you part of a larger whole.

Those who paid attention to you among all the others. Those who listened to you.

Those who stuck with you through complaints, arguments, doubts and mistakes.

Those who knelt to serve you, with gentle compassion for your brokenness.

Remember how Jesus has loved you no matter what.

“I give you a new commandment, that you love one another. Just as I have loved you, you also should love one another.” Jesus doesn’t suggest or invite. He commands. Love one another. Love though you don’t like. Love though it’s really hard work. Following Jesus is not easy.

Yet Jesus always acts first. We give out of presence not absence. Having been blessed abundantly, we bless everyone. Having been loved abundantly, we love everyone.

The way is we love others no matter what.
The truth is Jesus loves us no matter what.
The life is being restored, through love, as Jesus loves, no matter what.


[i] John 13:34

[ii] Genesis 12:2-3

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  1. Carolyn Legg on August 28, 2021 at 19:59

    Thank you Br, Luke for all your insight and shraing it with us. I leaned so much reading your sermon. Carolyn Legg

  2. Bobbi on August 25, 2021 at 08:42

    Lately I have been trying to pray for my enemies–my political enemies. Your sermon is helping me see a way. Thank you, Brother Luke.

  3. Margo on August 25, 2021 at 07:47

    Thank you Br. Luke. Inspiration to try again. Just lovely. Margo

  4. DAVID Donald DUNCAN on September 7, 2020 at 12:48

    That’s a good paragraph on Jesus’ new commandment as John tells it. Thank you. On the other hand, Paul, in Romans 12 says “be transformed” which is in the passive voice — in English, at least. This English expression is not a commandment which would read something like “Transform yourself!” I am not denying the emphasis of today’s “Give us a Word.” Instead, I want to suggest that the distinction between following a commandment or being transformed turns on the identification of the agent: is it in the first place the believer or the Holy Spirit?

  5. Tom Bailey on September 7, 2020 at 09:55

    “Love is a Decision” Marriage Encounter 1975

  6. Julianne Lindemann on September 7, 2020 at 07:43

    Thank you Br. Luke. The concept of love where like is absent clarified a lot for me. Shines a light on the path that otherwise seemed too full of tripping hazards.

  7. Ruth West on October 24, 2018 at 12:57

    Br. Luke, I loved your sermon. I had visions of when I was a small child, sitting in a big overstuffed chair, crying, because I felt nobody loved me. I compared myself unfavorably to my younger sister, whom I felt was better than I was.
    But, thankfully, that image did not stick, mainly because I came to see Jesus as my friend, my Savior, One who loves me. In all the scriptures, especially the gospels, love is the key. He saved me, is saving me, and will be saving me in the future.
    Praise the name of Our Lord God!

  8. Laurence E. A. Franks on October 22, 2018 at 15:12

    Very well done! and difficult to achieve in practice of course. Agape as defined in a book of the same title as the respect to the other person in the time given to him or her their lives. A basic respect for the life of the other and the ethical choices a person makes for career et cetera. Correlative to this is the rejection of an extreme utilitarianism which would see the worth of a human as measured by usefulness whatever this may mean – not making enough money, not paying one’s own way, not working hard enough because one is handicapped, being a burden on society – as if a human life could be tossed in the bin like an empty Styrofoam cup as worthless because that particular human being is not able to meet a certain set of utilitarian criteria, i.e, expendable because not useful.

  9. Elizabeth Hardy on October 22, 2018 at 09:32

    Such a thoughtful and insightful discussion of this passage. Gave me some sermon ideas! Thank you Br. Luke.

  10. Mary Fairbrook on June 14, 2018 at 11:38

    I teach Sunday School, we have been studying the Ten Commandments and I wanted to tie to Jesus’s commandment but I was not sure how. This helps. Thanks

  11. Rhode on June 8, 2018 at 09:10

    Love this message. How thoroughly perfect is the love God has for us all. We are so easily distracted by the weight of this world. Yesterday, I reluctantly posted a happy birthday on my brother’s facebook page after being wholly annoyed by his completely different views on politics and life. Were we born from the same parents? Yet, I love the man he is, the good father, loving husband. I called him afterwards to tell him so while wishing I could slap him silly. (like 4 yr olds!) I need to see my brother through the eyes of Jesus and I need to be reminded my brother is probably praying the same for me. I am glad to have told him I love you no matter what.

  12. Margaret Dungan on June 7, 2018 at 15:17

    Thank you for this simple but wonderful message, we can find so many excuses for not following this command
    but we only have to remember the “Last Supper” and see how Christ ,even though he knew that all his Disciples
    would fail him and that one would betray him to his death on the cross, continued to love them.


  13. gwedhen nicholas on May 10, 2013 at 18:46

    Thank you for that beautiful message. It really spoke to my heart because I am in the
    throes of my relationship with God. He is asking to give myself to Him completely, and to love him “no matter what.”

  14. Shannan Hudgins on May 3, 2013 at 06:08

    Thank you for this gentle, yet not-so-gentle reminder of our work in the world. I will carry this message with me on this first Friday in May, sunny and clear. Love no matter what.

  15. Pat Beamish on May 2, 2013 at 14:31

    Your sermon touched my deeply – at the heart- thank you!

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