What breaks you out of your patterns of dislike?
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I have had to learn, and it has actually got – has become easier because I’ve had so many opportunities to practice it and maybe that’s part of the grace, I’ve had to learn to say I’m sorry. And I’ve had to learn to ask people for forgiveness. I can spend so much time in my head demonizing them, which of course is a justification to myself for why I can be nasty to them, or why I’m in conflict with them, or why they push my buttons. That’s my justification, this, “So, well, of course I feel this way about you because you’re like this, you’re like this, you’re like this.” So that is – that kind of thought pattern is something we have to reject. Something we have to catch ourselves in and that we have to stop. We cannot revel in that kind of thinking. So Augustine said, “Thinking can be sinful,” and that’s – I think that that’s what he was talking about much more than people have equated it with sexual desire, because that’s where we always seem to go. But I think that was actually what Augustine was talking about. Our ability to demonize, to mentally demonize others, to justify our own feelings about them. And how do we stop that, we stop that kind of thinking. We catch ourselves in that kind of thinking and we say, “No, I can’t go there. I can’t do that. I have to do something else,” whatever that might be. But I think that there’s a very sound spiritual practice for us.
– Br. Robert L’Esperance