Do You See This Woman? – Br. David Vryhof

Br. David VryhofLuke 7:36-50

One day Jesus was invited to dine at the house of a Pharisee.  While they were at table, a woman “who was a sinner” entered the room with an alabaster jar of ointment.  She began to wash Jesus’ feet with her tears and dry them with her hair. Then she continued to kiss his feet as she poured the costly ointment over them.  We are not told who the woman was, or what had earned her the reputation of “a sinner,” or how she knew Jesus, or why she was weeping and anointing his feet.  The gospel writer records only her simple act of profound love and devotion.

The Pharisee objected mightily to this woman’s presence in his house.  He may have been irritated that she was distracting his guest and ruining his party.  But it’s more likely that he objected to her very presence.  He said to himself, “If this man were a prophet, he would have known who and what kind of woman this is who is touching him – that she is a sinner.”  For the Pharisee, that label had clear implications: it dictated how a righteous person would respond to her.  Certainly a teacher like Jesus should understand these important social norms. Not only would he not have let her touch him, he would not have interacted with her in any way.  To do so would compromise his own holiness.

Jesus turned to him and asked him an important question.  He said, “Simon, do you see this woman?”  He was not asking if Simon had noticed her.  Of course he saw her, from the moment she entered the room. What Jesus was really asking Simon was, “What do you see when you look at this woman? Can you really see heror are you seeing only the label you have affixed to her? Can you look past the label and see her as she is?”

That’s the problem with labels, isn’t it?  When we label others, we stop seeing them as they are.  We see them only as we are determined to see them, as we have decided that they must be.  It’s important, then, to ask ourselves the same question Jesus asked Simon.  Who is it that I have difficulty seeing?  Is there a person – or group of people – whom I refuse to see?  Can I set aside my labels and take a fresh look?

Or it could be that I need to take a fresh look at myself.  What labels have I used to describe myself?  What names do I secretly call myself?  In what ways do I criticize or belittle myself? Here, too, I am challenged to peel back the label and take a fresh look at the person.  Can I see myself as Jesus sees me?  What do I see when I look at others or at myself?  A person or a label?

Simon is fixed on the label.  Jesus sees the person, sees her compassion, her courage, her generosity, and her love. If we can get past our labels, we might be able to see the beauty in others and in ourselves.

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  1. Timothy Gibbons on October 21, 2021 at 11:30

    Thanks Brother David,
    No distance of place, or lapse of time, and lesson the friendship of those we value! Your words bring hope to keeping our eyes open to change, especially in the post-pandemic days ahead!
    Bless you!

  2. Eunice Schatz on October 21, 2021 at 08:28

    Every morning I am awakened by an aide in this nursing facility, I am struck by the question “Eunice, do you see this woman.” Not this aide, but this woman? The question changes me.

  3. Constance on August 25, 2020 at 09:24

    Thank you Br. David. May I open my eyes today to see.

  4. rowan on August 25, 2020 at 09:07

    Bernie Glassman said we all belong to a club, and that club is defined by who is not in our club.

  5. jane cooper on August 25, 2020 at 08:24

    How do we know he didn’t learn from this experience, the Pharisee that is?

  6. Claudia Booth on August 6, 2019 at 22:34

    Thank you, Brother David. We need to hear this, today.

  7. Damon D. Hickey on October 2, 2018 at 10:30

    Thank you, Br. David!

    • Damon Hickey on October 2, 2018 at 12:53

      One further thought: Letting Jesus show us who we truly are may not be a pleasant experience. It certainly wasn’t for Jesus’ Pharisee host! Jesus told him he was ungracious, judgmental, lacking in fundamental hospitality toward his guest, and oblivious to God incarnate in Jesus. Beneath and behind that indictment, Jesus surely recognized the man’s insecurity about his own righteousness that had led him to buy into a system within which he could feel righteous because of his meticulous observance of outward forms, while denying justification to others who didn’t measure up. The good news, of course, is that God justifies, freely and lovingly, so that we don’t have to try to justify ourselves anymore. But the Pharisee was deaf to that news and blind to God’s loving, forgiving presence at his own dinner table.

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