Beyond Expectation, A New Creation – Br. Keith Nelson

Br. Keith Nelson

 Isaiah 7:10-16; Romans 1:1-7; Matthew 1:18-25

Worlds apart, though not a great distance, Mary and Joseph bear parallel but private burdens. What thoughts must have raced through their solitude?

Oh God, what would he say if I told him the truth?
What will he do if I say nothing?
Oh God, what will happen when he begins to notice that I am pregnant?
If he dismisses me, what will become of me? What will become of this child?
Oh God, you began this work in me. How will you see it through to its promised end?
Oh God, what would she say if I asked her for the truth?
Would I want to know?
Oh God, could I ever learn to love her and this child that isn’t mine?
Am I not enough to wait for?
Oh God, how could she do this to our promised future? 

Mary holds the weighty knowledge of her intimate, personal involvement in God’s saving plan, as another life takes on its own weight within her body. But she holds this knowledge alongside an utter incapacity to explain that plan to others. Reading only Matthew’s text, we know at least that she has not ventured to tell Joseph.

Meanwhile, Joseph undergoes the trial of his deepest conscience: a conflict between the righteous observance of the Law, his personal instincts of compassion and discretion, and his own dashed expectations. Probably, he is gravely disappointed. 

It is the Fourth Sunday of Advent. Our waiting now practically vibrates with the anticipation of Christmas. But we must reconcile this joyous expectancy with a hard reality foregrounded by this passage from Matthew: Sometimes the things we wait for do not arrive. We seek, we suffer, and we trust. Our desire is purified and clarified by the waiting. And in God’s time, a gift does indeed arrive, but it is not at all what we had imagined or hoped for. In its place, there stands a thing we needed so deeply that we could not name it aloud, even in our solitude, even in the dark. We could not name it, that is, until it arrived, looked us in the face, and changed everything. We did not choose it, but it chose us.

You are to name him Jesus, the angel says, for he will save his people from their sins.

Joseph had made a decision. He had resolved to exercise his agency as a first century Palestinian Jewish man. This agency would have been honored by his peers and elders. This was an agency, within the limitations of his place and time, to author his own story, to say, “This is not what I expected. This is not what I want.” But it is while prone and powerless, enfolded in the nightly chaos of sleep like the formless void at the Beginning of creation, that he is visited by a dream. A creative Word bids a better decision and a reassurance of the ultimate agency of God.  In the beginning God said, Let there be…and it was good. God’s angel says to Joseph, Do not be afraidDo not put to an end what I have only begun. This is not what you think it is, nor is it anything you even imagined. But it is what the whole creation has longed for from the beginning – including you. 

Mary and Joseph are the raw, elemental materials from which a New Creation is being fashioned. A supreme pliability is asked of them, a soft, yielding, malleable surrender. Yet they are not mere slabs of clay. Such surrender to God will result in hard consequences. They will navigate a world naturally hostile to being recreated from its foundations upward. Their courageous cooperation with God will be essential. 

Matthew’s account is marked by a sober recognition of the challenging circumstances in which Joseph and Mary are asked to make this response. There is the ominous threat of public shame. In its most extreme form, this could have led to the pregnant Mary being stoned at the entrance to her father’s house.                

And then – behind closed windows and doors, under cover of night – there is an intensely private vulnerability. Joseph’s manhood, his socioreligious responsibility, and what today we would call his sexuality – and Mary’s – are all at the heart of his dilemma. Mary and Joseph are in the midst of constructing working hypotheses about one another’s inner life and integrity. The gospels of Matthew and Luke are both attuned to these doubts, projections, and puzzles. 

But amidst the potential of shame and into the trembling heart of vulnerability there comes a third force: the action of the Holy Spirit. The Spirit is already revealing the way in which the God of the primordial past and the distant future is God-with-us, Emmanuel. This is God within the fragility and disappointment of human waiting, within the frustration and longing of human sexuality, and within the terror and the tenderness of human hope. Through Mary and Joseph’s obedient self-offering, this is God within the generous, generative consent that will fulfill their humanity, and lead to the fulfillment of ours. The birth of Jesus the Messiah took place in this way. 

This child of Mary and Joseph, in the words of the apostle Paul, was descended from David according to the flesh and was declared to be the Son of God with power according to the spirit of holiness by resurrection from the dead. The divine sonship of Jesus was revealed to possess unimagined height, depth, breadth and length. His earliest followers began to fathom its measure by praying their experience of the resurrection backwards. By a process of sacred remembering stretching back through his terrible death, his final week, his ministry, to his baptism, his birth, and his conception, they came to know that the Holy Spirit had all along been slowly revealing Jesus to be the Son of God with power. The church’s experience of the Son of God as Emmanuel, God-with-us, was not only confined to the remembered past. The Sonship of Jesus was prayed further backwards beyond the bounds of memory to its origin in the bosom of the Father: Jesus is the Eternally Begotten, through whom all things were made. But still further they plumbed this mystery. The Sonship of Jesus was prayed beyond the bounds of the foreseeable future forward to the Last Day, prayed as far as the limits of language and imagination would take them. These prayers reached toward an event horizon that would consummate all things but also rested in the renewed pledge of his coming every Sunday, the first day of the week. The same Emmanuel prophesied by Isaiah and named by Joseph is the Emmanuel who speaks the last sentence of Matthew’s gospel: Remember, I am with you always, to the end of the age.

The eternal sonship of Jesus Christ reveals that Emmanuel has always been God’s nature. But the human birth of Jesus, will reveal that with-ness in an unprecedented way in the loveliest of all mysteries, his Incarnation. The Son of God before the beginning and after the end becomes the Son of a human mother’s womb and the son of a human father by adoption. He is born of our flesh so that we can be born of his Spirit. 

I am with you always: in fragility and disappointment; in frustration and longing; in terror and tenderness; in your most selfless hour and in the throes of breathtaking self-centeredness; in the sleep that enfolds your doubt and anguish and in the light of morning that floods your bed with clarity: I am with you. I am Emmanuel. 

If what you have been waiting for has not arrived, or not in the form you expected or hoped; if the approach of Christmas brings ghosts of past regrets or fears for the future; if you find yourself on the verge of falling apart as the manic lights twinkling around you blur in a wash of tears; if the sugar, fat, and alcohol leave you overstimulated and exhausted and angry at everything and nothing; if you are persecuted by your own impossible expectations or those of others – if any of these “ifs” ring true: 

This is your moment. The birth of Jesus the Messiah took place in this way. 

 Mary and Joseph’s generous, generative consent to the divine initiative was offered in the thick of public disapproval, private confusion, painful risk, and gathering scandal. God’s initiative – as clearly as it came – retained its essential mystery. Being human, they struggled. If they had not come undone – if they had not broken open, even just a little – the words of the angel would not have had room to land and to grow in their hearts. They offered their lives to this mystery trusting in its power to do more for them than they could ask or imagine.

This is the fourth Sunday of Advent. All the Advent candles are lit, a perfect circle with four points of light, a “shape that is itself a promise of completion.”[i]  But it is not yet Christmas. The long, dark night is almost spent, but the dawn has not yet broken. This is a threshold time in a threshold season, a time pregnant with power and grace. In the precious silence and stillness remaining, in an out of the way corner or a solitary walk or simply in the shower, call upon the Holy Spirit and ask:

 Is there something I need this Christmas so deeply that I tremble to name it aloud? Is there something that I cannot or could not ever choose, but has already chosen me and is asking for my consent – by way of a dream or an angel, a memory of the Last Day or a desire for the First? Something broken or unfinished, abandoned or newly discovered, through which God may nonetheless be saying: Do not be afraidDo not put to an end what I have begun in you. This is not what you think it is, nor is it anything you ever imagined. But it is yours as I am yours. Reach inward and homeward to lay hold of this greatest of gifts: your need of the one who is God-with-you, Emmanuel, to the end of the age. 

[i] A phrase from Caryll Houselander’s The Reed of God  (the single most insightful book on the Blessed Virgin Mary that I have yet encountered).

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  1. Annette on December 28, 2023 at 20:44

    WOW!! If only I could read and understand the biblical words in this way. May God’s grace be upon me and all who cannot see clearly. Peace be with you.

  2. Rick Trites on December 26, 2023 at 07:04

    Thank you

  3. John on December 28, 2022 at 19:01

    This moved me deeply, Brother Keith. From it came light in my darkness. Thank you. +

  4. Elizabeth on December 27, 2022 at 11:19

    This is a foundational, provocative yet, at the same time, reassuring message. Applicable to many experiences, circumstances, conditions. God with us,
    in the disappointing, unimaginable and unexpected times and those we wait for with hope, faith, trust.
    Thank you.

  5. Fr. Richard on December 27, 2022 at 09:40

    Dear Br. Keith, I cannot express how deeply I am moved by your opening to me the depths of Jesus incarnation. You have taken my fears and shown me how God reaches to me. A lifetime familiarity with the nativity story has not touched me so profoundly. I am so old but I begin to see a glimmer of hope. Thank you.

    • Maryan on December 27, 2022 at 13:07

      Father, What a blessing your response to Br Keith is! He certainly speaks so eloquently and with great sincerity of spirit!

  6. Julie on December 27, 2022 at 09:06

    Thank you for sharing this message! It helped me understand more fully what Mary and Joseph must have been experiencing. As I struggle with the complexities of my own life, I will meditate on the word Emmanuel.

  7. Maryan on December 27, 2022 at 08:25

    Brother Keith,

    I am reading this two days after Christmas and it has forever touched my heart!
    Your words are so rich and your invitation to forever seek to live into the spirit, person and vocation God intends for each one of us spoke to me in such a wonder-filled and delightful way!

    I have always believed in the shepherds as being the first disciples of Jesus and I want to continue to be one too! For I know that Emmanuel lives amongst us and continues to walk the path of faith with us each and every day of our lives!

    A most blessed Christmastide to you and all the Brothers who have committed themselves to this journey in Christ!

  8. Chris on December 26, 2022 at 19:03

    Thanks Br Keith. This was just what I needed to hear today.

  9. Mary Naumann on December 21, 2021 at 09:42

    Lovely. Just lovely. I will look for ‘The Reed of God’. Blessings.

  10. Suzanne Haraburd on December 21, 2021 at 09:12

    Br. Keith, You speak the unsaid longings and feeelings of my heart words of hope. I thank God for you. I so needed to read this today.

  11. Rhode on December 22, 2020 at 13:43

    I am weeping…wow, so powerful, so very poignant…hope and the mystery of faith in the face of the harshness of day to day reality. True surrender to all that Love asks …the years of worry and wonder, the inevitable cross, the amazing grace of resurrection. What an incredible everlasting gift to us all. Praise God.

  12. SusanMarie on December 22, 2020 at 08:04

    Wow. Just wow.
    Your beautiful sermon with words of scripture, insight, wisdom, and personal revelation make me feel complete, whole. It’s as though I’ve found the answers and the important questions all in one place. I feel settled, peaceful, and yearning — ready for a silent night, a holy night, and a new birth within.
    I will read this many times as it is very full. Just lovely. Thank you!

  13. Jane on December 22, 2020 at 02:19

    Thank you for such a beautiful meditation which relates a very familiar story into our hearts and emotions today

  14. John G. on January 11, 2020 at 14:10

    Yes to the above comments, and this meditation is still astounding eleven days into the new year, 2020. No one has ever put the meaning of the word “surrender” more clearly or poignantly.

  15. Jaan Sass on December 29, 2019 at 14:40

    Much of the time I find stuck in depression or manic. I feel broken and have difficulty seeing the way forward. I know that I at times I hurt my relationships and isolate myself. I found the meditation meaningful especially not to give up but to allow God to finish what he has started and then claim it thank you.

  16. Patricia on December 28, 2019 at 08:59

    This is a beautiful meditation and challenging set of questions offers with great hope. I shall read it over and over and over again. Thank u.

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