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In our Western society, we hate having to wait.  We want everything now. Yet Br. Geoffrey Tristram, SSJE suggests that if we have lost touch with the wisdom of waiting in our life, we've lost touch with part of our soul. God likes us to wait. Discover why waiting is countercultural, radical, transformative, and true.

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Br. Geoffrey Tristram, SSJE, has been a member of SSJE for almost twenty years.  He was born in Wales, and before joining the community taught theology in a large English high school, and  was then Rector of the parish of Welwyn in Hertfordshire, which is just outside London. He enjoys teaching and preaching, as well as swimming, cycling, traveling, and French literature.

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On Waiting

trust in the slow work of God


In our Western society, we hate having to wait.  At the supermarket, deciding which lane will be the shortest, you make a choice, and it turns out to be the wrong one.  All the other lanes are moving much faster. Shall I swap? If only I’d chosen the other lane; now I’ve got to wait. Or you are driving, stopped at a red light that’s been red for ages, and then it goes to green, but the car in front doesn’t seem to have noticed. O come on!  Or at the airport, you look at the board for your flight and see the dreaded word, “DELAYED.”  O no, I’ve got to wait another hour!

We hate to wait. We want everything now. Buy now, pay later. We can touch a button and have light, music, TV, instantly. Online shopping allows us to buy what we want when we want, and shipping speeds above one or two days seem impossible to endure. Food is no longer seasonal, but readily available at all times. Even relationships are now formed or lost in an instant. On Facebook we can make a friend at the touch of a button and – more sinister – we can unfriend someone in an instant.

All good things come to those who wait, my mother used to say to my brothers, sister, and me. When she did, we all would groan and complain. But now that I’m older, I think she was right. Waiting is countercultural; it’s radical; and it’s true.

If you have lost touch with the wisdom of waiting in your life, I believe you’ve lost touch with part of your soul. Scripture is shot through with the power and wisdom of waiting. God, it seems, likes us to wait.  For if we never allow ourselves to spend time waiting – waiting patiently, even when it’s boring or annoying – if we always insist on getting what we want instantly, we are doomed to a life of superficiality.  When we have to wait, however frustrating and uncomfortable we might find it, we are actually opening ourselves up to God, and to God’s work within us. God likes us to wait, because when we are waiting, we become vulnerable to God’s Spirit slowly changing us, forming us, and helping us to grow.

This is why I love the story of the Exodus: how God led the Hebrew people out of bondage in Egypt and through the desert to the Promised Land. To get from Egypt to Judah on foot would have taken maybe a week or so. Yet it took the Israelites forty years – a whole generation!  It wasn’t because they kept losing their way; it was because God wanted them to wait. During that time of waiting God was forming them, molding them into God’s own people. Without that time of waiting, they could not enter the Promised Land. I believe the same is true for us.

“O tarry, and await the Lord’s pleasure,” we read in the Psalms. “Be strong, and he shall comfort your heart. Wait patiently for the Lord” (Ps 27:18). The Psalmists knew that God’s time is not our time, and that the deepest, truest gifts from God come when we wait patiently for them. “I waited patiently upon the Lord: he stooped to me and heard my cry” (Ps 40:1).

The waiting that is commended to us is a particular kind of waiting; it’s not like waiting for the bus! The key comes in Psalm 130: “I wait for the Lord, my soul waits for him – in his word is my hope” (v.4). Hope is the key. When we wait for the Lord – when in our prayers our souls in silence wait – then we wait in hope. The Spanish word esperar means both “to wait” and “to hope.” This is how we are to wait: in hope and trust and confidence that God is answering our prayer; that God is slowly and silently working in us, changing us, forming us, converting us, working miracles in us.

It’s probably in our darkest moments, when nothing seems to be happening and when we feel most anxious, that –­­ silently and mysteriously – God is at work. “For God alone my soul in silence waits; truly, my hope is in him” (Ps. 62:6).

In my own experience of waiting, I find these words by the Jesuit theologian Teilhard de Chardin helpful:

Above all, trust in the slow work of God.
We are quite naturally impatient in everything
to reach the end without delay.
We should like to skip the intermediate stages.
We are impatient of being on the way to something
unknown, something new.
And yet it is the law of all progress
that it is made by passing through
some stages of instability –
and that it may take a very long time.

You may be right now in a place of darkness, anxiety, or indecision. Perhaps you have to make a choice, a decision about a job or a relationship. Perhaps you just feel confused or unsure about the future. If you are feeling frustrated that you can’t see clearly, or if nothing seems to be happening, or if you’re feeling stuck,offer all that to God in your prayers.

Trust in the slow work of God. Something is happening, something deep and mysterious. Wait in hope. The time will come when you will see, when you will know, and it will be a kind of resurrection.You will know in your own life these wonderful words of Isaiah: “Those who wait for the Lord shall renew their strength: they shall mount up with wings like eagles; they shall run and not be weary, they shall walk and not faint” (Is. 40:31).

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O gracious and holy Father, give us wisdom to perceive you, intelligence to understand you, diligence to seek you, patience to wait for you, eyes to behold you, a heart to meditate upon you, and a life to proclaim you, through the power of the Spirit of Jesus Christ our Lord. – Saint Benedict

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  1. Scarlett Arguello on December 27, 2019 at 22:17


  2. Jeanne DeFazio on December 27, 2019 at 08:34

    Waiting upon the Lord and others is a challenge. Thanks for this wonderful message today. Impatience is often the stubborn desire to be selfish and will full. That has been a lifelong problem I have had. In retrospect what I had to wait for gave me a better disposition more gratitude, less selfishness, a more charitable attitude toward others. This is a priceless devotional. Many thanks.

  3. Rosemary Dawson on February 1, 2019 at 10:51

    Does waiting impatiently, crankily, fretfully count? I think that is the more common response (at least it is for me, right now).
    Blessing to you for your words of encouragement and hope.

  4. Nancy on February 1, 2019 at 07:10

    Words of wisdom and encouragement. So speaks to my heart to where I am, in God’s waiting room.
    Thank you.

  5. Jody on February 1, 2019 at 03:33

    All week I’ve been waiting for a phone call with an official job offer. Day after day it doesn’t come. Finding this in my email Inbox felt like a personal message of encouragement directly from God. “And yet it is the law of all progress that it is made by passing through some stages of instability.” Thank you!

  6. Missy on January 31, 2019 at 15:41

    When I was a little girl going to confession often, there was usually a litany of “I was impatient, maybe 10 times.”Reading Br. Geoffrey’s insights startled me to realize that my impatience continues, perhaps in different ways, more internally, emotionally and spiritually. I am grateful for the guidance and the further readings of Br. Curtis and Br. Luke. I will attempt to be mindful and even name and question myself, so what I am being impatient about may become a discipline rather than being impatient with myself and get into God’s and my way.

  7. Akos Konya on January 31, 2019 at 13:37

    Thank you for this encouragement. I just sent a letter to my Bishop, signing in it, that it is too much. Balancing between service and family.

  8. Bryan Cook on January 31, 2019 at 12:47

    I have come to learn that snap decisions are often poor decisions…..it is often best to let the choice mature situationally. Slowing me down and curbing my impetuous nature have been gifts I received as I accepted my Faith. Thanks

  9. Edra Bogucki on January 31, 2019 at 11:40

    Years ago I prayed for patience,thinking it would pour over me. Eventually I understood I was to PRACTICE patience, and I began carrying some calming literature to read when every light was red, every driver slow, every railroad crossing blocked. When I could welcome those pauses they became fewer.

    • David Hollingsworth on January 31, 2019 at 14:40

      As the old saying goes: God please grant me patience, but HURRY UP!!!!! It will all happen in HIS good time To quote a stanza from German pop song: Keep on smiling und bleib ganz cool!

  10. Joan Todd on January 31, 2019 at 11:11

    So very helpful …for me to read each day for hope and strength and healing .

  11. Clarence Burley on January 31, 2019 at 10:52

    Let’s not overlook the active sense of the word wait. Let us be waiters—in Latin, ministri—to the Lord in our service to others.

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