Br. Tom Shaw – Please share your memories

M. Thomas Shaw, SSJE

August 28, 1945 – October 17, 2014

With great sadness, the SSJE community announces that our brother Tom Shaw died on October 17 at SSJE’s Emery House, in the care of his Brothers.  Br. Geoffrey Tristram, SSJE’s Superior, said, “Our brother Tom said during his last days he was so very, very thankful for the life God had given him: for the many wonderful people he had met, for the opportunities and challenges he had faced, and for the amazing grace he had experienced throughout his life.”

Br. Tom was diagnosed with brain cancer in May 2013 and continued active in his role as Bishop of Massachusetts until his retirement on September 13, 2014. He came to SSJE in 1975, having previously served as a parish priest. He served as the Superior of the SSJE community from 1982 until 1992. In September 1994 he was consecrated Bishop of the Episcopal Diocese of Massachusetts. Br. Tom was a man of deep prayer, a charismatic figure who connected easily with young and old alike, and an effective leader who helped shape SSJE’s life and ministry. He was known for his sometimes-mischievous sense of humor, his tenacious courage, and his passion to serve Jesus, both among the privileged and the poor.

The Brothers invite you to share your memories and messages:

246 Comments

  1. Robert Brown on June 22, 2019 at 22:34

    I am grateful to Tom for his friendship and kindness since we were at GTS. I visited him un Milwaukee when he was a curate, in England when he was at Higham Ferrars, and in Cambridge when he was a novice with SSJE. Not long after that he was my novice master there and helped me see that I did not have a vocation to the religious life — I am particularly grateful for a guided retreat in the spiritual exercises at Emery House and introducing me to Manhattans made with Jack Daniels, both experiences I gladly draw on still! When I was working on Capitol Hill I encouraged Tom to consider a sabbatical there because of his commitment to social justice and public policy based on what in those days I would have called Christian Socialism. He flourished in his sabbatical in Amo Houghton’s office. I admire Tom for standing up for the Palestinians and protesting against the violations of their rights, knowing that would not be well-received by everyone in Boston. He had his faults but was well-aware of his defects of character and was propmt to offer an aplogy for anyone he njured or offended because he had a deep and loving affection for his brothers, his friends and all the faithful who were and are still inspred by his example.

  2. Robert Miller on December 26, 2016 at 18:15

    Tom came to the El Hogar orphanage in Tegucigalpa, Honduras as a volunteer for about a month. He was interested in the home for boys and the agricultural school, and was impressed with our “high church” (built in the trees the boys loved to climb). He would spend hours with the boys, talking with them in Spanish and encouraging them to share with him the dreams they had for their lives.
    The Episcopal Diocese of Honduras had just a few copies of the 1928 Book of Common Prayer in Spanish during those years. We used a booklet of the 1979 Eucharistic rite printed for local use. After he returned to Boston, Tom arranged for prayer books in Spanish to be sent to all of the churches in the missionary diocese. It was a welcome gift and wholly unexpected.

  3. Frederick Gabriel on August 6, 2016 at 11:02

    Still thinking of you Tom. Still missing you.

  4. Andrew on May 21, 2015 at 16:09

    Bishop Tom still inspires me. His physical being is profoundly missed but his spirit and presence stays with me to this day. Thank you.

  5. Walter Brownridge on December 28, 2014 at 20:02

    Although I met Bro. Tom several times at the Monastery in Cambridge (most poignantly in September 2013), ten meeting I most cherish is a chance encounter I had when I was serving at St. George’s Cathedral in Cape Town (2003-06) Bishop Tom was just passing through the Mother City during a pilgrimage through Africs. We chatted about his wonderful experince on the continent, I remarked about the fond memories I have of the Monastery. We both expressed hope that the travails of the Anglican Communion would eventually pass, and that even in times of tension the bonds of affection and mission were still present in certain places.

  6. Elizabeth Anderson on November 25, 2014 at 13:36

    Tom was a bright star in my universe when I worked at Cowley Publications with Cynthia and Jeff from 1986-88. We all looked forward to the time each day when he would visit us in our basement offices at the monastery. Typically, he had just been out for a run along the Charles River. He made us laugh out loud, big belly laughs. He brought joy and perspective to our daily work lives. I came to Tom’s consecration as Bishop. It struck me then that it is a good world we live in when a man such as Tom is elected Bishop of Massachusetts. Tom, I will remember you as a delightful human being with strong intelligence and humor. One of the very best I have known. Elizabeth

  7. Jonathan Coffey on November 17, 2014 at 14:46

    I well remember driving up from New York to Boston for the funeral of Tom’s predecessor, David Johnson. David had preceded me as a priest at a southern parish where it was clear there was a long pattern of boundary violation. I had David and Jodie down for the sesquicentennial of the parish and liked both of them immediately. Then, when the pattern emerged and those in authority could not or would not take steps to confront David who was by then bishop of Massachusetts, David as we all know, took his own life. So, I felt I needed to go to his funeral and I drove up in a sleet storm and then stood in Copley Square while the funeral was broadcast on loud speaker to all outside. Tom, who was coadjutor, preached the sermon and his litany during that sermon was, “The resurrection is already underway!” I found his words enormously comforting and I knew on that day that the diocese was in good hands. At the reception following the funeral, the Sisters of St. Margaret and the SSJE brothers moved quietly through the traumatized crowd of mostly diocesan folk, binding up wounds and caring for all. It was a splendid moment of gospel-living, right in the jaws of grief. After the funeral, Tom and the brothers at SSJE allowed Jody and the family to stay at the monastery as their home was a crime scene. I am certain that Tom’s resurrection has been “underway” for some time, and I thank God for his witness.

  8. The Rev. K. Gordon White on November 15, 2014 at 23:18

    I remember Tom best for his God-given compassion in his words spoken and hugs given (along with Tom’s colleague, Barbara Harris) after the shocking suicide of his predecessor. Those dark days in the Diocese were brightened by Tom’s daily care for his clergy and congregations over twenty years, the length of time he promised. Tom’s deep commitment for the education of our youth was exemplified by his personal visits to the struggling formerly mill cities of the Commonwealth where the public schools were in dire need of reform. As my pastor, Tom celebrated my 97 year-old father’s Requiem Memorial Eucharist, sharing his own concerns about the After-Life. Tom brought to the Diocese so many riches from his monastic life, outwardly manifested in Eucharistic vestments, smells and bells with a piety and joy for chant and all things musical. Thank you SSJE Brothers for sharing Tom with us. I envision a perpetual party in the heavenly realm with Tom still sharing his God-given gifts of hospitality and compassion. Tom would remind us of Saint Paul’s admonitions to be hopeful and not to grieve for long the passing of one who was a friend to so many on this earth-bound pilgrimage.

  9. Anne Marie Bourassa on November 9, 2014 at 07:37

    As a member of the Roman Catholic Community I have a special affinity for Brother Tom. For many years I received the Societies’s magazine…..I have read his words, I was so struck by his eulogy, his total belief in the centrality of Christ and His Resurrection. I pray TO him as one in the Community of Saints. His deep prayer life and his total concern for the Other has edified me beyond words.It is something I often meditate on.May he know the absolute Love that Jesus had for him, may he pray for us all, and my condolences to the Brothers he lived with and served so well.May all of you experience the Presence of his Spirit in the community…….a palpable one! Respectfully Anne Marie Bourassa,

  10. Revd Br Graham-Michoel Wills SH on November 8, 2014 at 18:47

    I am saddened to learn of Tom’s passing, and I know he will be deeply missed by his Brothers and the wider SSJE Family, ( a whanau I am proud to have shared during my own pilgrimage ). Tom guided his community through some difficult changing times and always saw the vision ahead – places where much of the Church didn’t, and doesn’t, want to go. The courage to stand by his own visions and dreams remains for me a lesson I carry with me, I hope for ever.

  11. Rev. Dr. Mary J. Korte on November 3, 2014 at 17:01

    I remember Bishop Tom telling Tim and I stories about his family and “Shaw camp”. He surprised me with humor one Sunday, behind me in procession I heard him singing, Mary I forgot what hymn we are on, and I sang him the answer. I loved God’s sense of humor in that moment. Now he is fully cloaked in God’s embrace. Rev. Dr. Mary J. Korte

  12. Andrew Watts on November 3, 2014 at 09:01

    Br. Tom was a true inspiration to all, even those of us who didn’t know him personally. He was a living saint and an exemplar of Christian virtue.

  13. Thomas Pang on November 2, 2014 at 05:42

    It is my most blessed privilege to serve in Boston under Tom’s leadership for 16 years. He was able to keep a spiritual dimension while fulfilling his administrative duties. When he made a decision, I could always sense that it was linked to the teaching of our faith. He was a good listener.

    When he visited my congregation and met the leaders and members, he dropped down every person’s idea and responded respectfully. Whenever I brought concerns and ideas about my congregation to him in his office, he usually gave his support and asked further what else he could help me.

    We did not have the same perspective towards various issues, but he did show his respect and accepted our disagreement. He cared about people especially the youth. I notice a number of young people, including my daughter, have become firmly committed to serve our Lord in their life journey after joining the Youth Leadership Academy and Diocesan Youth Council. Tom was not only the initiator and reinforcement behind those two ministries, but also personally participated in many events.

    I am blessed to witness closely that like Paul, Tom had fought a good fight, he had finished his course, he had kept the faith.

  14. Robin Bugbee on November 1, 2014 at 21:18

    A remarkable man who gave us all the opportunity to experience the gift of clarity that often comes with a terminal diagnosis. On this day before All Saints Day, the words of that sweet old hymn:
    “I Sing a Song of the Saints of God” and that final line:
    “They’re all of them saints of God and I mean God helping to be one too”
    Amen

  15. Ashley Davis Bush on November 1, 2014 at 16:41

    Thank you for sharing the service homily. I am so touched by all the words here. I didn’t know Br. Tom, but I encountered him at the end of his life. My husband and I were spending a weekend at Emery House and Tom was there with his sister and brother-in-law. I didn’t know that Tom was dying but I did see a beautiful light shining through his eyes. At the Sunday lunch, he told me that he was one of the brothers but that he had forgotten to wear his habit! My prayers are with him for peace and with all the brothers who mourn him and will continue to feel his presence and his shining light for many years to come. Blessed be.

  16. Ann Markle on November 1, 2014 at 16:39

    Arriving for retreat at the Cambridge house, rainy, gloomy day, shortly after his episcopal election. He was driving out as I drove in, and his cassock was hanging out the door of his car. I had the fun of saying, “Bishop, your dress is hanging out the door!”

  17. Jeff Spahr on November 1, 2014 at 11:35

    No doubt Br. Tom is with all the saints today as he prays for, supports, and cheers us on as we run our individual races in this life (as Br. David wrote in today’s Brother, Give us a Word). He ran a very good race, and he will be missed by us who are still running. To me, Tom seemed “reasonably happy in this life,” may he be “supremely happy with [Christ, and all the saints] forever in the next. (Reinhold Niebuhr, Serenity Prayer).”

  18. George Joseph on October 30, 2014 at 16:21

    When I was going through a rough patch and had suffered a setback, I went on a retreat at S.S.J.E. on Memorial Drive (I was a member of the Fellowship of St. John). Br. Tom had recently become the Superior, and invited me to sit at the head table. During lunch, he spoke very kind words of understanding and encouragement to me. I have never forgotten that moment and remain thankful to have known Br. Tom. I always loved his sermons at the Tuesday Eucharist, and had an enormous respect for his warmth, intellect and deep spirituality.

  19. Scott Cooper on October 29, 2014 at 13:37

    His was a life through which shone the love and grace of Jesus Christ. Br. Tom, pray for us.

  20. David Booth Beers on October 28, 2014 at 17:31

    I never was at a retreat led by +Tom; but the last time I saw him, several months ago, he preached and celebrated in the early evening for a small gathering. His voice was a little softer, his manner a little gentler; his thoughts just as sensitive. When it was over, I said to myself, “I have just been on a retreat led by Tom. I’m sure glad I didn;t miss it.”

  21. Leith on October 27, 2014 at 14:58

    Complex people have complex relationships. (How could they not?)
    I think of my many encounters with Tom, remember his curiosity and the times when the demands of his office were clearly visible in his face and manner, but remember best our last meeting outside the Monastery gates when he greeted me and asked for prayer. He was quintessentially present and I believe it is that man who will continue to enliven and challenge us even as he now goes from strength to strength elsewhere.

  22. Markus Dünzkofer on October 26, 2014 at 11:23

    Dear brothers,

    It is so sad to hear about Br Tom’s untimely death. I remember so vividly his energy & laughter and at the same time his contemplation & faithfulness. One of my abiding images is during Lambeth 1998, when he was one of the few bishops who had no qualms to talk to demonstrators thus breaking through walls that the church had erected around herself. I think it all came from a deep, intimate, loving, and nurturing relationship with our triune God. And this love-affair continues even now. May Tom rest in peace and rise in glory.

  23. Sr.Julian SSM on October 24, 2014 at 13:30

    During Advent of the late 70’s a young priest, a novice from SSJE came to my small parish in central New York at the invitation of the curate at Christ Church, Cooperstown. He took part in Evening Prayer, preached to a small rural congregation, shared a simple meal, joined in the Bible study and spoke briefly about monastic life and Religious Vocation.
    At evening’s end Fr. Shaw leaned over to me and said “Julie, why don’t you get someone to take care of your horses & dogs and come East to visit us?” Maybe I will, Father.”
    Jesus said “Come” ‘Follow me” “Come and see” go ye into the world and preach” Tom did as Jesus did. I responded to his invitation. Thanks be to God! Thus began, for me, a journey in the monastic life .
    With thanksgiving & gratitude for Tom Shaw as an Apostle for Jesus,
    for his presence in my life these 36 years as a sister of St Margaret.
    May his words continue to be heard. ” You have caused the light of the gospel to shine throughout the world:
    ,

  24. Hall Kirkham on October 24, 2014 at 06:10

    I was about ready to start my second year of seminary, and my wife and I had just suffered a big loss for us. Tom called me on my cellphone as I was sitting on a bench in a park. He was calm, and soothing, and honest. He gave me his cellphone number and said I can call him whenever I needed to talk. That simply amazed me, this Bishop of Massachusetts calling me to console me. I truly thought of him then as my pastor. And I’ve got that now.

  25. Rev. Mark Delcuze on October 23, 2014 at 14:35

    In so many crucial moments of my life, Tom was there. As a seminarian at EDS in the early 80’s, Tom’s preaching and his direction made me want to be a person of prayer. As a priest serving in his diocese, he called out of me new gifts and insights I had not experienced in three decades of ordained life. May his rest now be in peace, and his rising in glory.

  26. Bob and Ginger Riggins on October 23, 2014 at 12:43

    We first came to know and to love Brother Tom in 1992. The realization came to us both in an instant: “Here is someone who truly and authentically walks the talk!” And in the years since, through letters and conversations and visits, that understanding has deepened. “Trust,” he taught us. Quietly, gently, persistently he has continued to “Point the Way” by word and by living example. Our lives have been changed and blessed by knowing and loving Brother Tom. With gratitude, Bob and Ginger Riggins

  27. Amy Cook on October 23, 2014 at 11:51

    I just posted my remembrances of Tom in my blog. There are so many things one could write about. Tom blessed so many people in so many different ways. Thank you brothers of SSJE for your care of Tom. I think that has been a comfort to many of us to know that he was surrounded by so much love and support all the way through. God’s peace and blessing to you all. http://www.massformation.org/home/remembering-bishop-shaw

  28. Dianne Smith on October 23, 2014 at 09:26

    There are no words… only heartfelt prayers.

  29. Jane Shaw on October 23, 2014 at 01:18

    I am so grateful to have known Brother Tom for nearly thirty years, and for all the ways in which he was a spiritual mentor and inspiration to me and to so many, many people. It was a privilege to have known him. My prayers are with his brothers as they mourn.

  30. Jonathan on October 22, 2014 at 22:08

    Tom became bishop when I was an undergraduate at Tufts, trying to figure out how I fit into the Church and God’s embrace. Over the next twenty years, Tom figured greatly in my life, as I began attending the Cathedral Church of St. Paul and, at his urging and support, helped spark a young adult ministry service along with Jep Streit and others. Later, at a friend’s wedding reception where he officiated, he trained his laser eyes on me, and said very slowly, “Who are you? Where have you come from?” And we began a dialogue about calling, including an important face-to-face meeting with him where he seemed to know the questions in my heart before I could even utter them, and put me in touch with brothers at SSJE who could continue to listen to and mentor me. A gentle touch. Later, as an employee for the diocese in Christian Formation, I remember a staff Ash Wednesday service on Wednesday morning, when Tom, now my boss and clad in black, turned to me with ash smeared on his forehead, and touched mine.

    Even when I left the diocese to follow God’s call to California, Tom figured in my mind and heart through the written word, as I uncovered a vocation to be a writer and reflect on the boundaries of the secular and the sacred, painting several pictures of my interactions with Tom and what he represented to me. These were dynamic, not static, visions, and I was grateful when we were able to reconnect in the flesh, whether it was when he visited Pittsburgh, PA, where I now live, to support the consecration of Bp. Dorsey McConnell, or when I returned to the diocese on Tremont Street months later to embrace him and tell him I had written a personal essay about the “Eschaton”–just weeks before his brain surgery and sudden diagnosis.

    Last spring, sick and stressed from my job as a college writing professor and stuck in bed, I listened to Tom’s reflections on loneliness through a Youtube clip. As he spoke to me through the screen, it was like we were in his office on the Fifth Floor of the diocese again, except this time, I was listening, not talking. I was hearing his voice and, through him, hearing God’s voice. In that empty space, I began to receive. When the clip ended, I started writing.

  31. jane goldring on October 22, 2014 at 19:09

    I remember meeting tom for the first time and how kind he was to me. i would go over and spend a couple of weeks with john and we were able to stay out at emery house and at the monastery. i will remember all the brothers in my prayers to-morrow when i do my office. thanks for letting me know i will share this with john. tom was a true christian and i certainly looked up to him.

  32. Fr Phillip Ayers on October 22, 2014 at 18:29

    I first met Tom when he preached at a colleagues Institution in St. Paul, around 1989, and a few times after that. When I moved to Michigan, I was near his birthplace (Battle Creek, because Coldwater in 1944 didn’t have a hospital for obstetrics!), and a parishioner had gone to jr. high with him! It was in 2002 that I had a wonderful chat with him after a very warm (humid) Eucharist at EDS’ chapel during the NNECA conference there. He was his usual non-anxious self and spoke eloquently. When I recalled our previous meetings and told him I had served in Marshall, Michigan, his eyes lit up and he talked with me as though he’d known me all my life. Uncanny! And a blessing.

    “May choirs of angels receive you Bishop Tom…” “et cum Lazaro, quondam paupere …”

    Phillip Ayers

  33. Rev. Jessica Flaherty on October 22, 2014 at 11:14

    Bishop Tom walked the holy walk with dignity, humility and a deep and evident love for God and God’s children. His preaching invited you into a conversation with our Creator that was made all the more powerful by its conversational simplicity. He was a true shepherd.

  34. Susan Beem Beery on October 21, 2014 at 22:08

    I mostly remember Tom as a young pup of a priest and monastic. His habit would swish in the breeze as he walked through the grounds of Emery House or Episcopal Divinity School. He was a good teacher and a good friend.

  35. Fr. Geoffrey Hahneman on October 21, 2014 at 09:38

    Fr. Tom Shaw attended my priestly ordination at the Church of the Advent on Beacon Hill, December 19th, 1980. I was a young, unimportant cleric and was so touched by his presence. Then at the door, greeting the guests, he knelt before me and asked for my blessing, the first priestly blessing that I ever gave, and tears came to my eyes at his kindness. Rest in Peace, my friend.

  36. Elizabeth Wright on October 21, 2014 at 08:00

    I’m grateful that four months ago at an Emery House workday in that very relaxed dining room to have finally talked with Bishop Tom during the in-between, unhurried moments waiting for the table to be set for lunch — after six years of being too awed to approach him myself. It was easy! I can’t forget the silence before the first office of the day at the monastery the morning of October 17. Deep comfort in their sorrow for the brothers, his family, and all who mourn and miss their friend. And continuing joy and wonder for his life.

  37. Claire Cabot on October 20, 2014 at 17:47

    Being in the presence of Bishop Shaw was truly a religious experience. You could feel God working through him. We were all so lucky to have known such a holy man. He was a marvelous example of a true Christian. My husband Sam joins me in sending our prayers to the Brothers of SSJE and the Bishop’s family.

    Claire S. Cabot
    St. John’s Episcopal Church
    Beverly Farms, Ma.

  38. Rev. Robert Trache on October 20, 2014 at 17:38

    Now that Tom has gone to be with Jesus. There is a brighter morning star in the heavens and more joy in God’s Kingdom than on earth. Tom was a friend for more than 40 years. I remember the three: Tom, Martin and James what great musketeers for Jesus. Go softly frienf and know you will missed by many, but we shall remember that those who live in the Lord never see each other for the last time.

  39. Ann Prentice, OSH on October 20, 2014 at 15:56

    Dear SSJE Brothers, I add my love and prayers to those of multitudes in the death of your Brother Tom Shaw. Early in my vocation in the Order of St Helena, I visited the Cambridge monastery and saw Br Tom walking through an adjoining room, stopping to greet several people. Just to see him pausing next to someone, listening, responding, then moving on was a sermon in itself. I had been told he was “the real thing” as a monastic; what I witnessed was humility, simplicity, and joy–nothing false or discordant about him. I felt I was seeing true Grace in motion. That “sighting” of him was a living witness to me of the way Jesus must have moved among the people of his time who wanted a word, a look, a moment with him. I thank God for his life, and for all of you. Blessings and Peace.

  40. Becky Taylor on October 20, 2014 at 12:57

    One of my first memories of Bishop Tom was when he came to St. Andrew’s, Wellesley, towards the beginning of his episcopacy. My youngest son saw him standing by himself and walked up to him and asked, “Why are you wearing a dress?” I remember Bishop Tom laughing, but he also used it as a teaching moment and answered the question about why bishops wear what they do. I will always remember Bishop Tom’s great love for children and young people, and I’m so glad that we have the Barbara C. Harris Camp, as a result of his vision. Holding you brothers in prayer, and giving thanks for the life of Tom Shaw.

  41. Jeff Lowry on October 20, 2014 at 11:53

    To the Brothers of SSJE: Thank you for your love of and caring for Br./Bp. Tom. In the days and months to come, may our Lord comfort each one of you by flooding your hearts and minds with memories of good times spent with Br./Bp. Tom.

    Christianity, The Anglican Church, The Diocese of Massachusetts; SSJE and the city of Boston have all lost a
    great light. It was never my privilege to know or correspond
    with Br./Bp. Shaw. However I do have a well worn audio
    cassette of a retreat he gave. Also, I am an Associate of
    The Order of Holy Cross. There have been several times
    when I explored the possibility of God’s call to the monastic
    life; family obligations became paramount. In my first inves-
    tigation I (early ’90s) I came to know SSJE and Br./Bp. Shaw
    through Cowley Magazine. It always struck me how Br./Bp.
    Shaw gave so much of himself for the greater good and for
    God but balanced that with physical acts(hiking/climbing)
    or pottery. Though he rose to the heights of the church he
    always remained humble. Now he has risen to be with our
    Lord.

  42. Jeff McArn on October 20, 2014 at 10:58

    I was a lay employee for Cowley Publications for twelve years, living at Emery House and the guesthouse in Cambridge for many of those years. I met Tom Shaw as my boss, and came to know him as a spiritual guide who helped me find my way into ordination (Presbyterian¬ – he did his best to lure me into the Episcopal Church… but I was too far gone.)

    I remember fondly working and living with James M., Rusty, Martin, Carl, Curtis, Jonathan, David, James K., Eldridge, Paul, John, Bob (who did marriage counseling for my wife and I) and my Emery House comrade Bernard. All of these beautiful brothers – some of whom have passed on, or otherwise departed the community, I know are deeply connected to Tom and my prayers are with them and the many newer members of SSJE I haven’t met.

    Tom officiated at the wedding for Georgia and me and blessed us with the gift of using Emery House as a place for our wedding reception. We will always be grateful to him for that gift and for the sound of the brothers SSJE singing the psalm as our vows were consecrated.

    My favorite memory of Tom is driving out to Detroit for an Episcopal Church General Convention, just the two of us, in an old pickup truck carrying a load of Cowley books. Blistering hot, no AC, windows down blowing in stifling air, but a big grin on Tom’s face, wanting to hear everything you had to share in a twelve-hour ride in a hair dryer.

    Bless you Tom Shaw. Thank you for being such a rock and a light for a young divinity student who – thanks to you – grew into a college chaplain.

  43. Jennifer on October 20, 2014 at 10:30

    I have been blessed to have met many wonderful people in my life, and Br. Tom was possibly one of the most wonderful. He was so profoundly alive to all of God’s offerings, and, it seems, was even alive to the cancer that would eventually take him from us. It seems to me that grief is merely bewildered love, seeking an outlet for expression that is no longer there. It is with all the love I can offer that I pray Br. Tom into the arms of God. But then, I know he was there all along. Until we meet again, farewell, Br. Tom. Go in peace.

  44. Carol Hartley Bellows on October 20, 2014 at 09:26

    A tribute for Brother Tom Shaw SSJE and you who loved him.
    Three decades past I felt like a yellow flashing light.
    Out of our quiet Brother Tom asked,
    “What would Jesus want you to do?”
    Over our tiny Cocoon fell Holy Silence
    “Jesus would want me to love him.”
    Calm Peace Renew from Carol Hartley Bellows

  45. larry jenkins on October 20, 2014 at 08:17

    I cannot think of Brother Tom without the words “prayer and community” coming to mind. So a man of prayer amid multiple communities. To his fellow Brothers n family my deepest sympathy.
    May you rest in Peace and rise in glory Brother Tom.

  46. Brother Bruce-Paul SSF on October 20, 2014 at 06:00

    Dear Brothers, My heart goes out to you all at this time of grief at Bishop Tom Shaw’s death but there is also a grand sense of celebration of a huge life given without reserve into the hands of Christ and lived imaginatively, with verve and vast energy. I thank God for Tom who came into the the life of SSF in Auckland New Zealand in the early 1990’s when he stayed with us on holiday. He gave us the gift of his friendship. So it was with great rejoicing that we greeted his election as Bishop of Massachusetts in 1994.
    May Tom Shaw rest in peace and rise in glory.
    Bruce-Paul ssf The Hermitage, Stroud, NSW Australia

  47. Angela Corbet on October 19, 2014 at 23:19

    Our dear brother and bishop Tom is the reflection of God’s grace and goodness in our world. May he rest in peace.

  48. Dorothy Rowan on October 19, 2014 at 21:02

    I came to the monastery for retreats in the 80s and heard Tom preach a number of times; he had a knack for addressing things that I happened to be struggling through. I remain grateful for his insight and compassion, his wisdom, and his humor. I learned a lot about Incarnation from him. My heart goes out to the community and all who loved him. “Yet even at the grave we make our cry: Alleluia!”

  49. Nancy Trueblood on October 19, 2014 at 18:41

    In the 1980’s we were parishioners at St. Francis Church in Chicago where the brothers of SSJE had once had a mission. Br. Tom came for a brief visit and met for an evening of conversation with parishioners. I will always remember how kind and unpretentious he was as we talked about faith and doubt and people’s various callings. My condolences to the brothers and to all who will miss his grace-filled companionship.

  50. Peter Yeage on October 19, 2014 at 18:02

    I have watched the interview of Bp Tom four times now, and I am deeply moved every time by his strength, his understanding, and his realism. I only wish I could have a small share of his spirit.

  51. Susan Charle on October 19, 2014 at 17:50

    For a few years I lived in Ann Arbor, Michigan while my husband was in graduate school and our daughter was born at U of M Hospital. When I learned that Bishop Shaw was from Michigan, I wrote him a short note telling him about my time living in MI and how much I loved it. Well, bishops are busy and I never dreamed I would get a response to that letter. But Tom wrote me back the most loveliest letter thanking me for my kind words and reflections about his native State. I was deeply touched by that. Since then I have had the privilege to hear Tom a number of times and each time I have taken away something new to challenge me in my own faith. I am filled with gratitude for his witness. All of the SSJE brothers are in my thoughts and prayers as they mourn the death of their Brother. Peace. Susan Charle

  52. Jennifer Daly on October 19, 2014 at 16:31

    There are no words to express that I feel a giant has passed from among us. When I was young and had been newly appointed as the director of Camp St. Augustine, I was told that Tom was coming to visit. I was incredibly intimidated. That night there was to be a talent show, and the CITs in particular were focused on presenting an extremely loud, urban, and angry show. One young man got up and performed an amazing and threatening rap – welcomed by the cheers, table thumping and wild dancing of 100 boys. Tom turned to me and said, “You know, this is how I always wanted the camp to be.” That’s who he was ….forever young and open- hearted.

  53. Bobbi Patterson on October 19, 2014 at 08:15

    As a young divinity school student at Harvard, I arrived at SSJE when transition marked the community. Deeply loving and open, the brothers drew me through my journey with God and in the midst of that support, Tom eventually arose as the Superior. As i returned for retreats – am still returning – his steady and playful leadership deeply rooted in Christ’s compassion nourished the community forward and each of us who studied with and loved the community. I think of his clogs. I think of Sheba, the first dog I knew of in the Society. I think of young people crowding into the refectory for a sleep over with Tom in the crypt. I think many homilies – like banquets of wisdom. A beautiful large bowl – his pottery – that i bought 5 or so years ago at Emery House – lives in our home, prominent, as will his memory, always.

  54. Venerable Tenzin Priyadarshi on October 19, 2014 at 07:46

    My humble prayers and condolences to the Brothers of SSJE. I had come to know Tom over the years and shared in his spiritual vision and sense of humor. He will be missed.

  55. Ray Walker on October 19, 2014 at 00:28

    Tom is my brother:
    I am a child in Rwanda,
    I am a woman called by God to serve,
    I am gay and look for a place in God’s church,
    I am in need of courage and passion to serve Jesus.

  56. Mark Bozzuti-Jones on October 18, 2014 at 23:41

    I left the Jesuits to get married and at the urging of many sought the counsel of Bishop Tom Shaw. He listened to my story and said, “That must have been so hard for you.” I was deeply touched and burst into tears. My wife remembers the first time she saw him, he hugged her and said, “Kathy, I am so happy to meet you!” She felt the Spirit of God run up her back. In the midst of a difficult pregnancy, I watched Tom touch Kathy’s belly. It seemed like an eternity. We owe our son to him, I firmly believe this. I had the great joy of being on Diocesan staff, being received as an Episcopal priest, and being blessed by Tom to leave the Diocese of MA for the Diocese of NY… My family and I will always love this man. I also loved the way he loved Barbara Harris.

  57. Donald Sutton III on October 18, 2014 at 22:50

    So sad to hear this. Br. Thomas shaw was the one that confirmed me into the Episcopal church and was the one that got me interested in working towards becoming a Christian monk. Thanks to his humility and great presence and the conversation about the order it has led me to finding an order that I feel like I fit in and hope the order feels the same way. We will all miss Br. Thomas Shaw but someday we will be united again with him in heaven.

  58. Eliot Moss on October 18, 2014 at 22:00

    I stand with and pray for the Community (and the Diocese and the broader church) as we mourn Tom’s passing and remember and celebrate the gift of his life. We will all miss him and look forward to joining him at the heavenly banquet in our own time. May God send us comfort and strength through the grace of the Holy Spirit.

  59. suzanne robinson on October 18, 2014 at 20:51

    Several years ago, when on retreat at Emery House, a gray
    mug drew my attention. On its circumference were black
    vertical and a tad off-center stick figures, and the following
    scripture came to me. “I see men like trees walking.” Mark 8:24.

    I purchased the mug and subsequently learned that Bishop Shaw was the potter.

    Several years later, very early one morning, after a huge storm
    the day before, I was walking on a beach in Kennebunk, Maine.
    Looking down at the at the sand, I was caught up by the image of
    exquisite, sparse limbs of trees, some about 6-8″ tall, the
    design for each, uniquely patterned by waters receding out
    into the ocean. Further along, there was a lotus blossom.
    Water, sand and gravity had together joined to create this most delicate, ever-changing, hidden yet unveiling tribute to life.

    In reflecting upon Bishop Shaw’s journey from strength to Strength,
    through death to Life in the suffering, redeeming Love of God the Father, through the Son, in the power of the Holy Spirit, I cannot help but kneel and give thanks to the Lord for the mysterious wonder of the stick figures transfigured into the most sheer line drawings of trees and a lotus blossom, witnessing to Jesus’ promise, “I have come that they may have life and have it more abundantly.” John 10:10

    Thank you dear Jesus for the river of Thy Love which summons
    us ever onward. The great Potter of all, God the Father, set before
    me through Bishop Shaw a mug, patterned, clarified and more
    completely made known through nature’s own revealing. May
    Bishop Tom go from strength to Strength in Thy loving service and
    may he know to the depth of his being “Well done, good and
    faithful servant; you were faithful over a few things, I will make you ruler over many things. Enter into the joy of your lord.” Mt 25:21

    In silent love, I keep watch with you all,

    Ever in gratitude and deepest most heartfelt sympathy,

    -suzanne

  60. Stephen Titus on October 18, 2014 at 20:32

    I can only muster up the strength through the Holy Spirit to say that I have had the honor of being with and/or around Bishop Shaw on several occasions. He was always so humble, kind, and to me…the epitome of a model Christian serving our Lord Jesus. I will miss him, but out of this darkness…I am sure his light will shine bright.
    “Grace and peace from G*D [Titus 1: 4].” ♡

  61. Patti Barrett on October 18, 2014 at 20:06

    Will and I send our love and prayers to all the Brothers and to all the Sisters of St Anne who will miss Tom so much – an early memory I have of Tom is his telling me that I would have to have something to “do” when I was a priest, something to create – to finish, as ministry was never finished. He showed me his pots and gave me a mug, that I treasure. I now paint and know that he was right; about so much. Tom blessed us all.

  62. Archdeacon Seraphim Solof on October 18, 2014 at 19:51

    I was a frequent visitor at SSJE and a parishioner at the mission church in the early ’80s, and remember Fr. Tom well and fondly. I respected the way he led his flock in the early days of his episcopal ministry, with compassion and unusual transparency. It was a lesson to us all. May God rest his soul and make his memory to be eternal!

    “O God of spirits and of all flesh, Who hast trampled down death and overthrown the Devil, and given life to Thy world, do Thou, the same Lord, give rest to the soul of Thy departed servant in a place of brightness, a place of refreshment, a place of repose, where all sickness, sighing, and sorrow have fled away. Pardon every transgression which he has committed, whether by word or deed or thought. For Thou art a good God and lovest mankind; because there is no man who lives yet does not sin, for Thou only art without sin, Thy righteousness is to all eternity, and Thy word is truth.

    For Thou are the Resurrection, the Life, and the Repose of Thy servant who has fallen asleep, O Christ our God, and unto Thee we ascribe glory, together with Thy Father, who is from everlasting, and Thine all-holy, good, and life-creating Spirit, now and ever unto ages of ages. Amen.”

  63. The Rev. Laurence Edward Alexander Franks on October 18, 2014 at 19:33

    I shall always be thankful for Tom Shaw’s solid support of Interfaith AIDS Ministry during my years as Executive Director 1990-2006. Consistent diocesan generosity greatly enhanced our ability to provide practical aid and pastoral care every year to hundreds of individuals and families in the Boston area at the request of hospital staff, other AIDS organizations, social workers, group homes and local government agencies. His caring (and the charity of many of our Episcopal parishes) alleviated the sufferings of so many people who were able to receive prompt assistance not provided by other agencies. God’s blessings are surely upon him and the brothers of SSJE!

  64. anna zilboorg on October 18, 2014 at 19:15

    I cherish the memory of a sermon from Br Tom on “Indiscriminate Love”. It has stayed with me for many years. Peace and blessings on all he has left behind.

  65. Rozzy Hooper-Hamersley on October 18, 2014 at 19:05

    Oh Tom, my heart aches. I am grateful that you are out of pain and in heaven with a host of the beloved especially your brother, James Madden; please give him my love and greetings.

    I will continue to keep company with your devoted and loving brothers of the Society for St. John the Evangelist as they mourn, as do we, the enormous loss of you.

    What a dear and funny and faithful and enchanting person you were — what a loving bishop you were, what a brave and constant priest and brother in your most beautiful SSJE you were . A hundred hugs and kisses to you in heaven, my ineffably kind and much-missed friend.

    xoxo,
    Rozzy

  66. Susan Mulchahey Chase on October 18, 2014 at 18:59

    My friendship with Tom goes back to childhood in Michigan. After college, our paths crossed and recrossed, as we experienced graduate studies, jobs, adventures, his ordination and then 20 years ago his consecration as bishop. We were in touch at different stages in our lives and in different places–Ann Arbor, New York, Milwaukee, Boston. We didn’t see each other much in recent years but he was always in my prayers as he did the work to which he was so clearly called. He was one of the most insightful people I have ever known. He read people with acute precision. He knew so accurately their weaknesses and vulnerabilities and pain and he knew what they needed. Our lives are richer for having known him and we are all the poorer with his loss. But we are joyful as well, sure in the knowledge that he is embraced by love and peace.

  67. Susan Joy Smellie on October 18, 2014 at 18:52

    I met +Tom only once at supper at Emery House long ago, but his charisma and humility were unforgetable even at what, I believe, was at a sad time in his life. I stayed aware of him and the wonderful ministry he had to his brothers, the local area, the Diocese of Massachusetts, and, really, to the whole world through a brother who has been a close friend to me and my late husband, through the FSJ, and the online presence of SSJE. We can rejoice for him that his pain and suffering have ended and that he sees God “face to face” and “not as a stranger.” But our hearts can still be broken at the loss of his presence among us. I pray for the brothers, his family, and all who have loved him at this sorrowful and joyful time. Be gentle with yourselves as you reconcile to life without him present among you. May Jesus’ love be especially present in your hearts to help and guide you.

  68. Frank Clarkson on October 18, 2014 at 18:44

    I met Tom and the SSJE brothers in the early 1990’s when doing some photography for the monastery. We were all so much younger then! While a commuter student at EDS I spend a number of nights under the Guest House roof and treasured being part of the chapel life there. What a blessing the SSJE community has been to me. Thanks be to God for the life and ministry of Bp. Tom.

  69. Charles Taliaferro on October 18, 2014 at 18:16

    I met Father Tom Shaw in 1977 when I was a student at Harvard Divinity School. I am pained by how many of the brothers have since died from 1977 to the present including Brother James, Fr. Cure, Fr. Greenfield, Father David Clayton…the inimitable senior brothers and others. In the late 70s, the preaching of Shaw and Martin Smith seemed to reach a zenith that captured the souls of so many of us. I give thanks for their lives and the lives of all in SSJE, past, present, and future. When I keep the daily office, as I have since 1977, I feel the love of Christ and in Christ is reciprocated and will be until it finds its completion in the Triune Godhead, the glory that was witnessed by the beloved disciple.

  70. Steve Macchia on October 18, 2014 at 18:03

    Our heartfelt condolences to all the Brothers upon the death of Tom Shaw. We are grateful for Tom’s many years of faithful service to the Society and the broader Church community. We are especially thankful for his grace, his creativity, his sensitivity, his resilience, his wisdom, his leadership, and his willingness to address challenging and diverse issues. He struggled well and his final days on earth were fruitful for the Kingdom. May he rest in peace and may SSJE be blessed, sustained, and protected by the presence and power of God’s Spirit throughout this season of loss and grief. We are blessed by your ministry in all of our behalf. With prayerful hearts, Steve and Ruth Macchia

  71. Terence Finlay on October 18, 2014 at 17:49

    With deep gratitude to the Spirit for the gift of Tom.

  72. Tammy Lee on October 18, 2014 at 17:34

    Annie Dillard wrote ” I believe that the dying say at the last not “please” but “thank you” as guests say to the host at the door….Tom’s life reflected that gratitude in ways to many to even try and number. It was as if it were written in his DNA. He has been much on my mind this past week reminding me yet again that prayer grafts us into the heart of God in ways that are beyond what we can imagine much less understand. Gratitude is something we can take with us when we die and more assuredly it is something that remains when we must let go of what is mortal. It is with a full and sad heart that we commend Tom to the God whose love for him and for us mercifully is relentless. It needs to be when ” even at the grave we must make our song.” Thanks be to God for this man who reflected the Paschal light even as he has gone before us into its mystery. My prayers are with you dear brothers as you meet the days ahead.

  73. Margaret Welch on October 18, 2014 at 17:34

    We are thinking of the brothers at Emery House, our good neighbors. Brother Tom left on an October masterpiece of a day from a lovely home made even more special now.

  74. Nola Sheffer on October 18, 2014 at 17:26

    Even though I was not present at the Consecration of Bishop Gates, and only watched on computer, I was struck by the strong presence of Bishop Tom at that service, and thought perhaps he was willing himself to be as strong as possible, until he could fully step down from the office of bishop.
    I remember his visits to the Church of the Advent, and when he preached, made sure I sat near the front so I could hear his quiet voice. To me Bishop Shaw always exuded peace and tranquility even though I am sure he could not have felt such at all times.
    I particularly appreciate his support — and that of many of the Brothers — for the Christians in Palestine, and his/your ministry at St. George’s College.
    I am so sorry for the loss to SSJE, but am glad that the Community was able to be together for Tom’s transition to the next life.
    With Condolences to all the Brothers

  75. Rev. Rob Mark on October 18, 2014 at 16:42

    Although not an Episcopalian, I have long been inspired by Bishop Shaw. At an installation of a friend and colleague in Waltham, as we lined up to process in, he leaned to me with his genuine smile and asked, “Are you one of ours?” in the most loving and inclusive tone. When I said no, I’m Presbyterian, he smiled and said something affirming – the words I can’t remember -but the strong sentiment of inclusion and welcoming that pervaded his Christ-like being and in missing him and praying for our sister denomination, I give great thanks to God. May light perpetual shine.

  76. Mary Taylor on October 18, 2014 at 16:18

    Giving thanks through tears to the Holy One today for the gift of Br. Tom. I first met him in 1980 when he listened to my life in prayer and shared my concerns. His thoughtful and prayerful guidance have remained with me, inspiring me, at last, to give spiritual guidance. For your life, your sense of humor, your palpable love, your soulful companionship, I give thanks to God. Let light pertual shine upon you, Br. Tom.

  77. Fr. Brent Was on October 18, 2014 at 16:09

    I had a complicated relationship with Tom. However, it is through that relationship that began while wading together in the Artichoke River taking care of a little garden problem that I am a better priest and a better human being than I could possibly have become otherwise. May light perpetual shine upon you and may the heavenly ground hogs (finally) leave your cosmos alone. Blessings and condolences to his family and brothers.

  78. Jerry Winterrowd on October 18, 2014 at 15:37

    I have a fond memory of Tom from the House of Bishop’s gathering at Kanuga some years ago. My suitcase was lost and I arrived with only the clothes on my back. Many bishops expressed concern about my lost bag. Tom said to me, “Jerry I think we are about the same size, let me share some of my clothes with you.” His was an act of vulnerable compassion. He offered to share with me what he had brought for himself. He lived his life that way. So to all of all of us who grieve his death he was like a pearl of great price. To the Brothers of SSJE, Ann and I offer our sorrow and prayers as we give thanks for the life of our brother Tom in Christ.

  79. Leslie Sterling on October 18, 2014 at 15:17

    Deep and sincere condolences to his SSJE Brothers, his biological family, the colleagues who served with him most closely, and to all the rest of us who were his spiritual family. Even though we knew it was coming, the reality of it is heartbreaking.

    I am one of the “Massachusetts Ten” — the first ten postulants accepted into the ordination process after +Tom became bishop. Everything I cherish most about my life in ministry now is a direct result of his pastoral influence. I wish I had had one more chance to tell him how much he meant to me. My very soul is broken open with grief, even as I know there are others who were much closer to him whose loss is beyond my understanding.

    He is at peace. No more pain. Rejoicing in his resurrection body. Even at the grave we make our song: Alleluia, Alleluia, Alleluia.

  80. Mary Coogan on October 18, 2014 at 13:51

    Tom was a strong spiritual force in my life. I am eternally grateful for having known him, his wise writings, and his wonderful sermons. His humble presence and extensive work in matters of social justice in our Diocese, our the country, and the world are a model of Christian values. Thank you, God, for giving us all the gift of Tom. May he rest in your eternal peace.

  81. Sue Redfern-Campbell on October 18, 2014 at 12:41

    I didn’t really know Br. Tom, aside from exchanging “hellos” when visiting the Monastery, and hearing a few of his fine sermons. But a chance encounter with him in 2003 gave me a glimpse into his character, I think. I had showed up at the Empty Bell for the regular meeting of our UU clergy prayer group, just as Tom was concluding a visit with Robert and Margaret Bullitt-Jonas. At that point, I’d had no face-to-face encounters with bishops and felt slightly intimidated. But Tom set me immediately at ease, extending his hand with a warm “Hi! I’m Tom Shaw!” It’s clear from reading the tributes before mine that this was just a small example of Tom’s way of being in the world – reaching out in God’s love to overcome barriers, and when necessary, working and struggling to overcome them.

    Sending love to all th brothers.

  82. Stan Kemmerer+ on October 18, 2014 at 12:22

    My first memory of the man to whom I found I could only refer as “my brother, Tom” was his coming to where I was seated at a clergy gathering, part of the walk-about prior to his election,squatting before me, looking me intensely in the eyes, and quietly saying “I don’t know you. I need to know you.” I knew he meant every word of it. Spoken to me. Spoken, I’m sure, to his entire world. With ultimate caring. Small wonder our often fractious diocese spoke as one in electing him on the first ballot to be our bishop, and, tears of joy streaming down our cheeks, we sang the Te Deum. We give our brother Tom back to the God who gave him to us, with sad but thankful hearts that he was shared with us.

  83. Sophia Twaddell on October 18, 2014 at 11:58

    Dear Brothers–How sorry I was to learn of +Tom’s death. But his spirit will live on the the work of the Brotherhood and in all those whose lives he touched.

    “With the Saints give rest, O Christ, to the soul of Thy servant, where sickness and sorrow are no more, neither sighing, but life everlasting.”

  84. Paul Cooper on October 18, 2014 at 11:45

    Dear Brothers,
    An SSJE associate from the days of Fr. Granville Mercer Williams, I was so excited when Br. Tom Shaw became Bishop of Massachusetts. That was wonderful and so appropriate for both him and the Episcopal Church. God be praised for his tremendous accomplishments and service to Church, Diocese, community and the marginalized. As he is now in the nearer presence of a gracious and grateful God, may he rest in peace, and may you his dear brothers be both comforted and glad for him. My wife Terry, sometime secretary at St. John’s, Bowdoin Street, joins me in assuring you of our thoughts and prayers.
    Paul Cooper

  85. Mark Crawford on October 18, 2014 at 11:32

    I was saddened by the news of Bishop Tom’s death. I remember a retreat that he and Martin Smith lead on Clergy Renewal. He was a wise counselor and spiritual director. May the Lord grant him eternal rest.

  86. Pat Whalen on October 18, 2014 at 10:28

    We first met Tom Shaw on a lazy Summer morning when he came for a Bishop’s visit at my church, the Parish of the Messiah in Auburndale. We were early and Tom had just arrived and was in the sanctuary. He approached my husband and I, extended his hand and said, “Hi, I’m Tom Shaw.” We were amazed how humble and ordinary he was. Over the years, we came to know him as a truly faithful man committed to living out the Gospel of our Lord Jesus Christ. Another time, we were at Trinity Copley Square to see several friends be accepted into the Episcopal church. Again, we arrived early and the church was bustling with activity. Priests, congregation members, and guests were moving about everywhere. In search of the rest room, I went downstairs using my cane to aid my walking. Some distance behind me was Tom Shaw. As soon as I reached a doorway, he was ready at the door to assist me. I knew he was the presider that day and still had to robe. Yet he took the time to help me. On another occasion, I was sitting a bit apart in a group setting, and he made sure to come over and speak to me. These small acts of kindness let me know what a caring person he was. May you rest in peace, dear Tom, sheltered in the loving arms of our beloved Savior.

  87. Barb Yatsevitch on October 18, 2014 at 10:06

    Dear, dear Brothers, I send you all my deepest, deepest sympathy. Your loss is tremendous. I’m happy that Br. tom is finally with Our Lord and his suffering is over … but not his work. I believe he will be with you and will mend your broken hearts. I send myLove to each one of you, Barb

  88. Spencer Alphonso Felder on October 18, 2014 at 09:56

    Bless you Bishop Shaw, rest in peace with The Heavenly Father !!!

  89. Timothy Dusenbury on October 18, 2014 at 09:54

    I am so sorry to hear of this loss.
    I only met Br. Tom once, but his unaffected openness and kindness are still very vivid for me.
    His homily for Holy Thursday, 2007, on John 13, opened up that passage to me in a way that I have continued to carry with me.
    Thank you.

  90. Pam Werntz on October 18, 2014 at 08:46

    Surrounding you all with prayers for comfort and consolation as you give thanks for the life and love of your Brother Tom. I give thanks for all of the myriad ways you made it possible for him to live so fully into his call as monk, as bishop, as beloved child of God.

    “We seem to give him back to you, dear God, who gave him to us. Yet as you did not lose him in giving, so we have not lost him by his returning. Not as the world gives, do you give, O Lover of Souls! What you give, you do not take away. For what is yours is ours always, if we are yours. Life is eternal; and love is immortal; and death is only a horizon; and a horizon is nothing but the limit of our sight.

    Lift us up, strong Son of God, that we may see further; cleanse our eyes that we may see more clearly; draw us closer to yourself that we may know ourselves nearer to our beloved who are with you. And while you prepare a place for us, prepare us for that happy place, that where they are, and you are, we too may be; through Jesus Christ our Lord. Amen.”

  91. Revd Sheela Jeyaraj on October 18, 2014 at 08:46

    Bishop Show, you were blessing to many, in that list I am one among them. You are with God and his presence which is eternal. As we follow the same Lord Jesus Christ who is alive to help us to proclaim his Good News to many people, not only in our words but through our life. I wish people who have similar experience as I have in Christ Jesus will comfort those who are close to him. Bishop, thank you for your prayers and blessings. May God’s name be glorified through your life now for ever more, through Holy God’s presence in our Jesus Christ who is alive now forever. Amen!
    Revd Sheela Jeyaraj
    All Saints Church, Stoneycroft
    England

  92. Judith Rhodes on October 18, 2014 at 08:43

    Dear Brothers, you are all in my heart and prayers as we rejoice and grieve for our friend, brother, and bishop, +Tom. For so many years now, your community has been a refuge, a sanctuary, a haven, a home. It is the circle I enter, however geographically distant I am, where I continue to find the gifts of respite and peace. As a spiritual director, mentor, and friend , +Tom blessed my life. Once on retreat he gave me a gift of this psalm verse, “For God alone my soul in silence waits. From God comes my salvation”. His words still ring in my heart as he spoke of his own experiences of waiting. Now he waits no longer. He has made his journey “to the very heart of God” where he, no doubt, is silent and full of awe as he listens to God’s own boundless gratitude for the whole of his life. As we mourn his death, we rejoice in his eternal glory resident forever in God’s own heart. My prayers and those of my parish continue.

  93. Sheila on October 18, 2014 at 08:09

    I only met him a few times, but I saw his work through the Episcopal Church I belong to. So sad to hear such a wonderful man went so quickly. He will be missed.

  94. Daniel Simons on October 18, 2014 at 08:05

    My cell was next to Tom’s, and I learned to throw pots on his wheel, but my real friendship with him began when I left the community. I didn’t expect that to be possible, since Tom was not always great at goodbyes, but when he adopted my husband, who called him uncle, and when our visits continued, year after year, it created a loyal friendship that I find myself missing so much right now. Blessings on your continued journey into God, Tom, so newly uncomplicated and bright!

    • Javier Galitó-Cava de Simons on October 20, 2014 at 16:00

      My dear Tom, I Love You and there isn’t much more I can say. I’m eternally grateful for having met you and having developed the relationship we had. Thank You. Be well forever and keep a good watch over us.

  95. Susie Allen on October 18, 2014 at 07:21

    Dear brothers,

    My heart grieves for your loss. And I pray that these last days with Br. Tom have given you a deep sense of Holy Love, spirit – to – spirit connection, and the freedom to cry and laugh and remember together.

    blessings of peace and comfort in these days~

  96. Nicholas Read on October 18, 2014 at 06:06

    I did have all that many encounters with Tom Shaw, but both Anne and I knew him from Emery House, on pilgrimage, or visiting his office on Tremont Street. But I’m sure my experience is that of many, namely that what the relationship lacked in length it more than made up for in depth. I remember gratefully the times when in Tom lovingly pointed me in the right direction. And that’s what it’s all about.

  97. Richard Budlong on October 18, 2014 at 05:59

    Remembering with fond memories the wonderful Sunday morning talks by Bp. Shaw on WGBH during the Lenten season many years ago.
    May he rest in peace!

  98. Ellen Barrett (Sr. Helena, OSB) on October 18, 2014 at 05:47

    It must be 25 years since I first met Tom. I had just arrived for my first visit and he was bouncing in in his red track suit. As I sat with him for spiritual direction I was certain that we were sitting with Jesus as well, as St. Aelred says. He is such a gift in my life I have no words to describe…. Gentle, strong, challenging, funny, loving, brave, and above all a man touched by God–a real staretz. ‘Precious in the sight of the Lord is the death of his saints,’ but with the joy of knowing them there is also such an ache.
    Sister Alison Joy and I both are sending our love and prayers to the Brothers and Tom’s family.
    Sister Helena Barrett, OSB

  99. Sylvia Gilman on October 18, 2014 at 05:24

    God bless.

  100. Sylvia Gilman on October 18, 2014 at 05:21

    Dear Brother Tom presided over the service when the Community welcomed me as a member of the Fellowship of Saint John. As he administered the communion host he greeted each recipient by name, and has remembered mine ever since. We all shall never forget him.

  101. Very Revd Bob Jeffery on October 18, 2014 at 05:18

    I am so grateful that I was able to talk to Tom when I was over from the UK last October.I only met him a few times but am very aware of his major contribution to SSJE in helping see through and work on the new Rule which is an amazing and creative document.He had a great capacity for remembering and caring for people. He has died within a few months of the centenary of the death of Fr Benson which we will be celebrating in the Parish of St Mary & St John Cowley on 14th January and Tom will be in our prayers as well with profound thankfulness.

  102. Judith Stoll on October 18, 2014 at 03:18

    I just got home from my work as an RN and got the news that Bishop Tom had been called home. I will miss his kind smile and keen curiosity. My fondest memories of him involve my children. In 2000 my then five year old son was thrilled when the Bishop let him wear his mitre during a Children’s homily . Outside of church in 2007, after leading the Rev. Bob Appleyard’s retirement service, Bishop Tom spoke for several minutes with both Cilla and Tommy. He thanked them for coming to church on a school night to celebrate Bob’s ministry. He asked them about school and sports and gave them hugs as well. They felt honored and appreciated. His loving spirit will live on in my family’ hearts and lives.

  103. Neal Logue on October 18, 2014 at 01:47

    I met Tom when I first visited the monastery in 1982, and always enjoyed speaking with him whenever I returned over the years for retreats. May God continue to bless Tom. Shalom. Rest in peace.

  104. Friar Joshua CZM on October 18, 2014 at 01:08

    The CZM community and I send our deepest condolences to SSJE and pray for his soul to rest in eternal bliss. We have come to understand God’s love more through the SSJE ministry. Brother Tom, I will ever cherish your simplicity and affectionate heart.

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